Hello and welcome to the Teen Life Coach podcast. I'm your host Sammy and today we are going to talk a little bit about complaining.

Hey guys, welcome to the podcast this week. How's it going? Today, I wanted to talk a little bit about complaining

just because I think that this is something that we can all do a better job on. And as I was

working on this podcast and figuring out what to say, I actually noticed so much complaining

that I do in my life that I didn't even realize I was doing.

Okay, so I Googled the word complaining, and the definition that I got was that complaining is the

expression of dissatisfaction or annoyance about something.

Okay, and we've all been around people who complain a lot. And how does that

feel? Doesn't feel really great, right? We like to complain about people that complain a lot.

All right. And I like to express my annoyance with people who complain. Nobody likes a complainer,

right? But here's the thing. We are all complainers and we don't even

realize it. A lot of the times we think we are just stating the facts about the world around us

when in reality we are complaining. And we don't think we are complaining because we are just

stating things that feel true to us.

Okay. So some examples of this are, it's so hot, or my room is so messy. My brother is annoying.

There's no cute people in this school to date. My nose is the wrong shape. I have too much homework. I ate too many cookies. My stomach

hurts. The movie could have been better. Okay. So if complaining didn't affect us at all,

I'd say, sure, go ahead and just complain away. Okay. But complaining does affect us, and it affects us in negative ways.

Okay, so first, when we complain, we are teaching our brain that nothing is ever good enough

the way that it is, all right?

And we become problems saturated and learn to focus on all the things that are not right. And the more we do

this, it becomes a habit. And our brains get on this trajectory of always looking for problems.

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