And I think what people need is to be able to sleep at night.

And there are productive conversations you can have with someone that will allow you to sleep at night.

Well, hey everyone. It is your host, Steven Hussie here on the Love Life podcast. Today, we are going to be covering the thorny issue of breakups and specifically closure after a breakup.

It is very, very common for us to receive emails and messages from women who have recently, they're in the midst of that devastating pain after a relationship has ended.

Maybe it's against their will. It was instigated by their partner.

And they're going through all those stages of grieving after a relationship. But they haven't yet accepted that the relationship's over.

And they're still wondering, maybe rightly so, could this be fixed?

And especially if you've made mistakes and you, you know, certain behaviors that you realize maybe drove your partner away or things you can work on or you think just the relationship is worth giving it another shot.

That's a very, very difficult place to be. It can lead to a lot of anxiety, a lot of sleepless nights, a lot of fear.

So Matthew recently talked about this on the girls got to eat podcast. And I really want you to hear this conversation because I think it's going to help anyone out there who's wondering, is there something I can say at this point to at least give it one more chance or to at least have one more shot at trying to work on things.

And I think this is going to help a lot of people.

And if you want to listen to the entire conversation covered in this clip, then you can actually hear the full thing at the girls got to eat podcast.

It's hosted by Rainer Greenberg and Ashley Hesselstein. It's a really cool podcast on comedy, sex dating, relationships from a female perspective. It's super fun.

You can go download it or subscribe, but I tune Spotify, Stitcher, all those places podcasts are that's girls got to eat podcast and you can go listen to the whole episode with Matt there.

All right, onto the clip. We're going to jump in now. I'll see you soon.

One of the things that really freaks people out in a breakup is one of the reasons they're looking for closure is is there anything I can still do?

Like I could fix this. I could perfect this. I need them back. So there's there's that element to it. And I think what people need is to be able to sleep at night.

And there are productive conversations you can have with someone that will allow you to sleep at night. For example, you saying to the person that's just broken up with you.

Very calmly and in a neutral way. I care about you deeply and I love you deeply. And I believe that I'm willing to give to this relationship on a level that is irreplaceable.

And I know that there are things that you must wish were different about this relationship or you wouldn't be ending it.

I'm prepared to do everything in my power to work on things that I need to work on. If there is anything that is genuinely falls into my lap that I need to work on.

I am willing to do that work because this relationship matters to me.

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