#12: How to Set Boundaries

On Attachment

Stephanie Rigg

Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Education, Relationships

5 • 1K Ratings

🗓️ 1 June 2022

⏱️ 20 minutes

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In this episode, we're talking all things boundaries - what they are, what they aren't, how to figure out what your boundaries are and how to set and enforce them. We'll also discuss why boundaries are the antidote to people-pleasing, the saviour complex and burnout. Click here for $50 off my signature 6-week program, Healing Anxious Attachment Highlighted Links Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here September 2025 London Event Waitlist Additional Resources Join my ema...

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0:00.0	Welcome to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience dating, love and relationships.
0:12.2	I'm your host, relationship coach and attachment expert, Stephanie Rigg, and I'm really glad you're here.
0:29.3	Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment.
0:33.9	Today we're going to be talking all about one of my favorite topics, which is boundaries.
0:38.8	Now, if you've worked with me or you've taken any of my programs, you might be rolling your eyes right now because, look, I talk about boundaries a lot. And it's almost like
0:44.9	the thing that we always come back to, right? So often people come to me with a problem or a situation
0:52.2	and they don't think of it as a boundary problem,
0:57.1	but we always find our way back to boundaries, right? Because the reality is having strong
1:03.8	boundaries, clear boundaries, healthy boundaries, it transforms every area of your life
1:09.5	in a very profound way, right?
1:12.9	It really allows you to keep yourself safe, to protect your peace, to protect your energy,
1:20.8	to keep yourself away from situations and people that don't serve you
1:26.9	and that really disturb your sense of
1:30.3	well-being, right? And boundaries are really the antidote to people-pleasing and, you know,
1:38.7	overgiving, over-functioning, burnout, all of those things that really exact a heavy toll on our being and that so
1:47.7	many of us find ourselves stuck in. Boundaries are almost always the solution. So today we're
1:53.0	going to be talking about how to set a boundary as well as some of the struggles around setting
1:57.3	boundaries and why people find that so challenging because, you know, the vast majority of us are not very good at setting boundaries and why people find that so challenging because, you know,
2:02.2	the vast majority of us are not very good at setting boundaries. And if you've not grown up
2:07.5	with good modelling around boundaries, as many of us have not, it can seem almost abrasive or
2:14.9	rude or arrogant or, you know, any of these other judgments that come up at the
2:19.2	idea of setting boundaries. It can feel very intimidating and very edgy. So we're going to be
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