Welcome back to another Monday motivation. I'm your host, Leah Darrell. And today we're going to talk about setbacks and failures. What to do when you experience a setback or failure in your life. And I've got a, I've got a great one for you today because it's a lot of personal experience.

In fact, this actually just happened in my life days ago, just a few days ago, and I kind of want to walk you through my mind of what happens during a setback and a failure in my personal life. And I hope that this helps you. So this is your Monday motivation, you just to give you a little bit of a background on what's what's happening here with this personal setback that I've just experienced is that I've been working on this very large project. It's going to be released later in the year, but I was working on this project.

And I was working with this team of people and there was just something missing and that the missing parts on me, okay, undoubtedly it's on me, the book stops with me.

And I just couldn't get any traction to make this thing work for me to just to do the progress I needed to do in this particular program that I was working on my man.

And it ended up just being where he was just a major setback and we ended up deciding me into this, this team of people is working on that you know what we just need to maybe maybe it's just not mutually beneficial, maybe it's just not going to work right now to work together.

Everything ended well there extremely well actually wonderful people that I worked with and we just decided, okay, look, there's just something going on. It's just not driving.

But the reality is was is that for me, this is a major setback for me, I mean it hurt, it hurt my heart, it hurt my heart deep.

Not from them, but just the reality that I was not doing what I wanted to do in the time frame, I guess I wanted to do it in.

And there were other things, there are other key pieces in my personal life at play that were affecting this decision and expecting the progress or lack thereof.

And anyways, without going into all the details, but the main point is that it was a major setback and a failure like I did not do it, I did not do what I said was going to do.

And that really hurt, it's really hard when something just does not go according to plan when when you just don't do a good job and it was, it's also really hard when you realize, you know, this is not on anyone else but me.

The book stops with me and I began to look at myself, so this is this is the part where it's going to get motivating for you, hopefully.

What did I do during this setback? Well, one I had to sit back and kind of just really evaluate my feelings after this phone call.

I had to figure out like, okay, how do I feel about what I've just received? I do not want to just react, I wanted to respond to myself.

I wanted to get in touch with my body. I wanted to get in touch with like, okay, what are you feeling now is that really what happened or is that is maybe that feeling tapping into an old wound.

So that's the first thing I'd like to encourage you to do when you hit a setback or failure is to kind of get in touch with yourself and ask yourself those questions, like how do you really feel?

And how you feel does that really match with it? What was really being said to you in that conversation or whatever it might might have been for you.

But the other things that really helped me move out at this place of, you know, just major disappointment in myself. I mean, let me just be completely honest. I was like massively disappointed in me.

I mean, I was just kind of moping around for a day or two and I'm like, man, Ricky, I just, I mean, I feel like crap, like this just stinks. It hurts. It hurts bad when you're so disappointed in yourself. And you kind of got right reason to be, right.

So I began and Ricky helped me. He's like, okay, what do you want to do about it? That's how you feel about it. No, what do you want to do? And it's just such a so fantastic to be reminded about that because you can't just feel your way through life. Okay.

You got to do things. You have to think through them and then do them. And I began asking myself these questions. And this is what I hope will help you in your setback and failure. I began to ask myself, okay, what can I learn from this experience? And I wrote down everything that I could learn about it.

Everything about my communication, about understanding myself more, becoming more aware of of the process at which I work at my needs of for in this particular case with work.

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