Yo, today's QLD is no vulnerability, no love, no belonging, no joy.

Here we go.

Welcome back to the quote of the day show. I'm your host, Sean Croxton, a Sean Croxton.

I come. We got Bernay Brown back on the show. Of course, she's going to talk about the power of vulnerability.

How if there's no vulnerability, there's not much of anything else.

She's also going to talk about the power of gratitude because gratitude is important.

God be thankful. Here's Renee.

Let's start with vulnerability and let's start with the willingness to be vulnerable, the willingness to really show up and let people in.

How many of you are raised to believe that vulnerability is weakness? Most of us.

Here's what I can tell you. I'll challenge you. Yell up if you can think of something.

I cannot find in 200,000 pieces of data a single example of courage that was not completely defined by vulnerability.

Let me challenge you. Can you think of one courageous thing that you have seen someone do in your life that did not require vulnerability, that did not require uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure? One thing.

I cannot find zero evidence. Let me tell you, I've stood in front of a group like this, a special force military people. They can't think of a single example of courage that did not require absolute vulnerability.

But we hate vulnerability because it opens us up to being hurt. I don't want to be vulnerable because vulnerability is my slide.

I'm not going to let people hurt me, see me, take advantage of me. The problem is that when we arm are up like that, not only is vulnerability, certainly the center of these experiences, it's also the center of these.

What do you think is the most vulnerable human affect we experience? What's the hardest emotion for us to handle as humans?

Joy. How many of you are parents? How many of you have ever stood over your child while they're sleeping? And thought, oh my god, I love you so much I can't breathe. And then that split second picture is something horrific happening to your child.

How many of you have done that? It should be 95% of you. This is a perfect example of that.

Many years ago, when I first was studying this concept of verboding joy, this fear we have about being joyful, I was on date night with my husband. And we come home and I see the lights still on the kids bedroom, I'm like circle the block to their tucked in, circle the block.

So we go, we get some like TCB Y yogurt or something, we come back, everyone's tucked in, I'm like, okay, this is awesome, let's go. And I remember we parked our car on the curb by our house and we're walking in. And the song on the radio when we got out of the car was like one of my favorite songs, little river band,

German song Friday night, it was late, I was walking at home, we got down to the gate and I was streaming of the night. And I remember like, oh my god, this is like amazing, we were holding hands. I go, oh my god. And she's like, what's wrong? And he's like, do you ever think like someone's going to jump out for behind the bushes and shoot us down?

And he's like, no, did you see somebody? And I said, no, I'm just saying, you know, like when things are going really well, you're waiting for like that.

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