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Money For Couples

113. “I feel like the parent in our marriage. And I hate it”

Money For Couples

Ramit Sethi

Relationships, Society & Culture, Investing, Business

4.63.1K Ratings

🗓️ 18 July 2023

⏱️ 67 minutes

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Summary

Nicole and Matt, 41 and 37, have weathered deaths in the family, a battle with alcoholism, and career difficulties to finally be on the right track and earning more income as a couple. But, the past has left them with trust issues and a stark imbalance when it comes to money responsibilities. This episode is brought to you by: Methodology | Visit https://gomethodology.com/ramit and use code RAMIT for 10% off your first order of Methodology. Calm | Go to https://calm.com/ramit for 40% off unlimited access to Calm’s entire library. DeleteMe | If you want to get your personal information removed from the web, go to https://joindeleteme.com/ramit for 20% off. Rocket Money | Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to https://rocketmoney.com/ramit. Links mentioned in this episode • Get the Podcast Newsletter and exclusive Q&A about the show Connect with Ramit • Get Money Coaching with Ramit • Download the Conscious Spending Plan • Get my New York Times best-selling book • Get my no-numbers journal • Other episodes • Instagram • Twitter • YouTube • Submit a question for the newsletter iwt.com/askramit If you and your partner have a money issue and you want my help, I occasionally select a couple to work with, free of charge. Apply for my help here. Produced by Crate Media.

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0:00.0

Have you heard people talking about the hedonic treadmill, the idea that once you start spending money on certain things

0:06.8

You're not going to enjoy it anymore and then they usually tell you this so therefore don't get on the hedonic treadmill

0:12.9

Don't spend any money if you get a raise bank at all. I don't love that advice. It's just getting people to play small

0:19.3

I would rather you have a philosophy or a framework on how to know when you are ready to spend more in my life

0:28.2

If you told me remit you can't stay at nice hotels

0:31.8

That would actually be very difficult for me because those things are important to me

0:36.2

For a lot of people if they own a house and you say you can't afford it anymore

0:39.9

You've got a rent or move into an apartment. They would find that incredibly difficult

0:44.4

I don't want you to be afraid of the hedonic treadmill and worry about spending money on anything because you're just gonna

0:49.9

Get used to it. So don't do it at all. No, I want you to have a more nuanced perspective on money

0:55.0

That's why this Saturday on my podcast newsletter. I'm going to share six main areas where once you spend money

1:01.6

It's really difficult to go back and my philosophy is to make sure that you are ready

1:07.5

To move up the value chain before you ever spend money on these things

1:11.9

I set my life up so I would never have to take a step back when it comes to nice hotels

1:16.6

I want you to do the same for the important things in your life get on the newsletter at iwt.com slash podcast newsletter

1:24.2

I'm only sending this particular newsletter out on Saturday, August 12th after that you will not be able to access it

1:30.4

Iwt.com slash podcast newsletter

1:36.5

I think took me some great places and then I came back home to New York and all of a sudden none of that fucking matter

1:44.7

Like you were just another shithead servant steaks being a waiter actor

1:49.1

Sort of makes you feel like you were failing in life

1:52.2

I went from being someone

1:55.1

respected in my field to

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