Welcome to UnFuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism, and coaching to rewire your brain

and get what you want in life.

And now here's your host, Harvard Law School grad, Feminist Rockstar, and Master Coach, Kara Loyenthyle.

Hello my chickens, how are you all? I am excited to do a listener Q&A episode. I've gotten such a amazing build-up of questions and I don't know why but just seems like the right thing to do around the holidays.

I feel like there are questions that have been coming in all year and so we're going to answer them in a few episodes over the next few weeks.

And I've kind of organized them.

I do always recommend that you, if you're into this work, listen to all the episodes and that oftentimes when we think that we know what topic we want coaching on,

we're actually wrong about what the problem is, if you think about it topics are kind of like circumstances right and it's never actually the circumstance that's the problem

so this part of why group coaching is so effective and powerful in a way that people often don't predict or understand until they've experienced it because you might think like, oh, well, this person wants to get coached on work and I don't have any problems at work, but it'll

turn out that that person's thoughts about themselves at work are like exactly the same as

the thoughts you have about being around your family or in romantic relationships or in your hobby or something else or as a parent.

Like, it's our thoughts, right, not the topic, not the circumstance that makes the difference.

So, all that being said, though, I have... not the circumstance that makes the difference.

So all that being said though I have kind of collected these.

I don't usually do it this way, but I've collected these into kind of broad topic areas, just because I think sometimes it's interesting to

answer a couple of different questions about the same circumstance in a way that kind of

helps you see that it's all just thoughts.

So this episode and the next couple of Q&A episodes

will kind of have those topic e-groupings,

but I definitely recommend that you listen to all of them and think about how these things do apply to you even if the topic or the circumstance is different.

So first question was, how do you deal with a firm that feels like high school

clicks bullies rumors oh my so the answer to this is you deal with your own brain, right? A firm doesn't feel like high school.

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