11 mistakes I have made as a husband (and why I’m better for it)

Zen Parenting Radio

Todd and Cathy Adams

Education, Philosophy, Parenting, Self-improvement, Kids & Family, Society & Culture

4.8 • 636 Ratings

🗓️ 31 December 2013

⏱️ 50 minutes

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Summary

When I do the annual job of washing the windows in my house, I always say without exception, "I never realized they were that dirty." I can now see how green the trees are, how blue the sky is. We see the world through our own filter. Our soul needs to to be cleaned as well by doing things such as reading books, working with a therapist, meditating, taking a mindful walk, etc. These are all actions that can give us a better perception of the world. Conversely—if you are filling your thoughts/heart with negative things, that is the world that you will see. If we can all make this shift, our lives will be happier because of it. We share some resources that may help including Mark Nope's "Book of Awakening" , Gary Chapman's "5 Love Languages" and the documentary Man on Wire (trailer is below). In the second half of our show (22:48 mark) - I go over 11 mistakes I have made in my 11 years of being a husband. We discuss each one and share some stories. They are (in no particular order): I made up for my ineptitude with grand gestures. I spoke a different language. I fixed her problems. I thought we were the same. I let her pass me by. I did not put her on the calendar I thought we were supposed to grow together. I let things roll off my back. I talked down to her in the presence of others. I made a big deal when I did something nice. I didn’t fight fair. Don't forget to: If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR We have arranged for a screening of the documentary "Girl Rising" in Lombard. Click here to purchase your tickets as there going quickly. Todd's Men Adventure Retreat is February 28th through March 2nd. Please email @ [email protected] for details. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EIawNRm9NWM

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0:00.0	Zen Parenting Radio, episode number 156.
0:10.5	Hello, my name's Todd Adams.
0:12.3	This is Kathy Adams.
0:13.3	Welcome back.
0:14.1	Zen Parenting Radio, podcast number 156.
0:20.2	And this is our last one of 2013. How was your 2013, sweetie? It's really good.
0:26.2	Zen Parenting Radio. It's a discussion between a spiritual and emotional mom. That's you and a logical and practical dad. That's me. We have three daughters, ages six, nine, and ten. And our goal is to give you the resources to become a better
0:38.1	parent, but more importantly, to become better you.
0:40.7	Do you have resolutions?
0:43.1	Negative.
0:44.1	You're not going to make, you're not going to have any resolutions?
0:46.3	I resolve not to make any resolutions.
0:48.7	Well, you can, I feel like I say this every year, but for new listeners, you can always resolve to do good
0:56.3	things for yourself rather than resolve to take something away. Like you resolve to, you know,
1:02.6	spend more quiet time by yourself, or you resolve to not beat yourself up about things, or
1:09.5	you resolve to worry less.
1:11.9	What are you going to do?
1:13.1	You know, I actually wrote a blog about this, but I can't remember what I said in the
1:18.1	blog besides the basics, you know, like I breathe more and that kind of thing.
1:22.7	But the thing that I...
1:23.5	Are you really going to breathe more?
1:25.0	Yes.
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