The work that we're putting into the relationship often overflows into our sex life.

And that's why it's this big, holistic conversation.

And even in a book about sex, it's not just a book about sex because it can't be.

There's so many other layers to it talking about our own personal health as well as the health of our relationship

and that's kind of what flows together but I think the key is to realize that sex is a symptom

sex is a signal and how can I learn from what's happening in the bedroom or not happening in the

bedroom how can that inform what we need to do to keep our

relationships strong and healthy and stable and Christ-centered?

You're listening to God Hears Her, a podcast for women, where we explore the stunning

truth that God hears you, he sees you, and he loves you

because you are his. Find out how these realities free you today on God hears her.

Welcome to God hears her. I'm Elisa Morgan. And I'm Aaron Eddie. Before we get into our conversation

today, we want to let you know that this conversation is for adults only.

So make sure to listen on your own or with another adult because today we're talking about

married sex. You heard that right. We're going there with Deborah Faleta, a licensed professional

counselor and author of books such as choosing marriage and married sex. She also hosts

her own podcast and writes a popular relationship advice blog. We are so excited for this

conversation with Deborah. On God Here's Her. My name is Deborah Felita and I am a wife and a mother of four kiddos. So that in and of itself is, talks about messy.

In my professional world, I'm a licensed professional counselor, specializing in relationship issues and

personal issues, you know, mental, emotional health. And ultimately,

the message that God continuously puts on my heart is that if we want healthy relationships,

we have to start by being healthy standing alone. And so that's kind of the theme behind what I do.

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