1061-Exposing Enabling Behaviors and 20 Tips for Providing Healthy Support

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AllCEUs Counseling CEUs

Social Sciences, Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Self-improvement, Science, Education

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🗓️ 1 May 2025

⏱️ 74 minutes

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Chapters: 00:00:00 - Supporting the Person Without Enabling 00:03:29 - Enabling Behavior in Caregivers 00:06:58 - Coping with Chaos in Family Environments 00:10:35 - Enabling and Resistance 00:14:34 - Enabling Behavior and Attachment Trauma 00:18:14 - The Progression of Addiction and Enabling Behaviors 00:21:52 - The Role of the Enabler 00:25:27 - Enabling vs Helping 00:29:00 - Enabling Behavior and Cognitive Dissonance 00:32:26 - Enabling Behavior and Setting Boundaries 00:35:58 - Consequences of Enabling 00:39:25 - Characteristics of Codependency 00:42:53 - Providing Support and Setting Boundaries 00:46:07 - Fostering Hope in Recovery 00:49:35 - Self-talk and identifying important activities 00:53:02 - The Responsibility Dilemma 00:56:28 - Setting Boundaries and Expectations 00:59:44 - Encouraging and Supporting Recovery 01:03:04 - Family Dynamics and Boundaries 01:07:29 - Overcoming Financial Challenges Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:28.6	i'd like to welcome everybody to today's presentation on supporting the person without
0:36.0	enabling i'm your host dr don. Donnellyce Snipes.
0:40.5	In this presentation, we're going to explore how a person becomes an enabler. We'll define
0:46.3	enabling and examine the consequences. We'll learn about the connection between enabling and
0:51.1	codependency, define characteristics of codependency, and how they may develop
0:56.2	from being in an enabling relationship, and examine practical strategies to provide support
1:02.0	and encouragement to people without enabling them.
1:07.7	So what makes an enabler?
1:14.8	Well, you know, that's one of those labels we throw out there.
1:22.8	Ultimately, I step back and I look and I ask, is this person doing something for somebody else that that person can do on their own and are they doing it at their own expense.
1:28.6	Is it nice to do things for people that they can do for themselves every once in a while?
1:34.0	Sure.
1:34.6	If your kid comes home and cleans the house for you before you get home from work, that's wonderful.
1:41.0	Yes, you could have done it yourself, but they did it to be nice.
1:45.9	They're not enabling.
1:47.0	What we're looking for is a pattern of behavior that negatively impacts both parties.
1:55.7	This often happens when a person you love is in trouble or in pain. So a person with an addiction or
2:03.8	mental health issue may be enabled. They may be in a relationship with somebody who covers up
2:12.6	for their mistakes, who makes sure that everything happens the way it's supposed to happen so that person
2:21.0	doesn't get in trouble, so they don't lose their job, so they don't get more overwhelmed.
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