Last week on Ask Paul Tripp episode 100, we found two older answers from Paul on the subject of intimacy in marriage and showing grace to a struggling spouse.

But what about those who are single and unmarried?

This first question in today's episode addresses that.

What advice, Paul, do you have for single people in the church?

I think that we have made a tragic error in the church. In the way that we've talked about marriage

and causing single people to feel like

they're relegated to plan B.

The marriage is God's plan A, and anybody's not married.

It'll never be on the A team.

They're always going to be on the B team.

And I think that we have we have carried marriage marriage as an

identity at a level that's unbiblical my primary identity should not be that I'm

married my primary identity ought to be in Christ,

child of God, who's married?

Just like your primary way of thinking about yourself

should not be that I'm single,

but that you're a child of God with all the gifts and graces presence and promises

that are meant to fulfill the longing of your heart i don't get my identity from lovel

and she better not try to get her identity from me we will we will fail with that we don't

get our deepest inner security from our marriage.

We don't get our hope from one another.

I love Luella, but she's not what gets me up in the morning.

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