105: Ask Dr. Helen (and David) — Is There Such a Thing as Empathy Fatigue?

Feeling Good Podcast | TEAM-CBT - The New Mood Therapy

David Burns, MD

Clinical, Therapy, Anxiety, Psychotherapy, Depression, Health & Fitness, Cognitive, Mentalhealth, Mental Health, Behavior, Education, Self-improvement, Psychology, Relationships, Addiction, Happiness, Personalgrowth

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🗓️ 10 September 2018

⏱️ 40 minutes

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Summary

We have invited Dr. Helen Yeni-Komshian to join Fabrice and me for two consecutive podcasts on questions listeners have asked about troubled relationships. In today's podcast, we address a question from Mary about how to deal with a husband who constantly complains and exaggerates how awful things are at work, in politics, and in the world. But when Mary tries to dismiss his statements in an effort to "keep the peace," it just gets worse. His complaints escalate!

This is a common problem and you may have run into it as well. Do you have a friend or family member who loves to complain? And have you noticed that your attempts to help or point out the irrationality of his or her complaints are futile? So what SHOULD you do? What's the secret of dealing with a whiner or a complainer? Is it even possible.

Helen and David provide a myriad of information and describe techniques such as Forced Empathy, Interpersonal Decision Making, Changing the Focus, and the Five Secrets of Effective Communication. You'll LOVE this lively dialogue!

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0:00.0	Hello and welcome to the Feeling Good podcast.
0:12.4	I am your host, Fabrice Nye.
0:14.7	And joining me here in the Murrieta Studios is Dr. David Burns.
0:19.0	Hi, David.
0:20.0	Hi, Fabrice.
0:23.8	Dr. David Burns has been a pioneer in the development of cognitive therapy, and he is the creator of the new team therapy. He is the author of
0:30.2	Feeling Good, which has sold over 5 million copies in the United States, and has been translated into
0:35.5	over 20 languages. He is an emeritus adjunct clinical professor
0:40.0	of psychiatry at the Stanford University School of Medicine. Welcome to episode 105 of the
0:47.3	Feeling Good podcast. And we have another Ask David today, but this is going to be a very special
0:53.6	Ask David. We are focusing on going to be a very special Ask David.
0:55.0	We are focusing on the five secrets of effective communication and on relationships.
1:01.7	And David was really adamant about inviting our empathy superhero, Helen Yenny Comption, who's joining us us. Hi Helen. Hello, good morning.
1:14.6	And David and Helen are in the Murrieta studios today, but I'm not. I'm doing this remotely.
1:24.4	But this is going to be good. So before we move on to the meat of the matter, I know that David, you wanted to make a couple
1:32.8	of announcements.
1:33.8	Yes, and I'm going to call this one Ask Helen, and we'll hopefully...
1:37.3	Oh, yeah, yeah.
1:38.3	Two consecutive Ask Hellens here, because Helen's interpersonal skills are just brain in general, totally awesome,
1:49.1	so you're really going to enjoy it.
1:50.5	We're going to have fun today.
1:51.8	We've got wonderful questions about relationship conflicts.
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