This is self-work and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. At self-work we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world

and what to do about them.

I'm Dr. Margaret and self-work is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes

today for your own self-work.

Hi and welcome to self-work. I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. I'm a clinical psychologist.

I've been practicing here in Fayetteville, Arkansas for 25 years.

And I decided a couple of years ago that I wanted to extend the walls of my practice to reach people who might already be in therapy or might be very accustomed to talking about psychological issues or dynamics, but I also wanted to reach those of you who

may just be starting out on that journey.

You may just have been diagnosed with anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder, whatever.

And I wanted to try to reach you.

And then there's a third group that I really wanted to reach and that just might be the people who would never even really consider

darkening the door of a therapist. Maybe they don't like to ask for help or

they think it's weak to go to a therapist. So perhaps they could listen to a

podcast and get an idea of what it would really be like instead of making a lot

of assumptions.

It's not about being weak.

It's certainly not about being fragile.

It's actually about taking responsibility

for what you want and where you want to go in life and simply deciding that it'd be a good idea to ask for help.

Today we're going to be talking about bickering.

These are fights that are practically scripted. You know what your partner is going to say and they know what you're going to say.

In fact, sometimes I have my patience take the other side and see what it feels like to hear their own argument presented to them.

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