Hello everybody, welcome back to the show. It is an end of 2025 episode and these are some of my

favorites. I get to go through some of the best lessons I've learned over the last 12 months,

stuff from the newsletter and the podcast and everything that I've gone through. And before we get

into it, I want you to say thank you very much for making Modern Wisdom the eighth biggest podcast

in the world, according to the Spotify charts this year. Spotify Rapp came out and are still not

too sure what to think about it. Just really, really grateful. So thank you everyone for supporting

the show and me and gassing me up. It's unbelievable. So thank you. Also,

it's nearly the end of the year and you need to do an annual review process. You need to learn

your lessons and set your goals. And the review that I have done every single December for the

last nearly a decade is available at chriswillex.com slash review. Hundreds of thousands of people

have done it. And it's totally free. You can just copy it into your note app of choice and fill it in. And it means that you'll get to reflect and make some memories and understand what you're trying to do next year. And it's based on all of the best people that I've ever followed and I've stolen all of their best bits and I've put it into a single process plus some of my own and that's chriswillx.com slash review. All right, let's get into it. First one, the parental

attribution error. We love blaming our parents. It's practically a right of passage in modern psychology,

but there's a double standard buried in the trend. We attribute what's broken in us to our

upbringings while claiming that what's strong as ours alone. Call it the parental attribution error,

like the fundamental attribution error where we blame others' actions on their character,

but excuse our own by pointing to circumstance, I cut that guy off because I'm late for work,

he cut me off because he's a dick.

It's a skewed way of assigning credit and blame. We externalize the bad and we internalize the

good. You're quick to blame and slow to credit. You say you're anxiously attached because no one

held you when you needed it, but isn't

your ability to be alone with your emotions and to endure discomfort quietly also forged in

the same crucible.

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