For at McKay here and welcome to another edition of the Art of Manliness Podcasts, I get a lot of questions from readers about love and relationships.

What should you be looking for in a potential marriage partner if you want to ensure a long lasting relationship? How do you approach women? What do women find attractive in men?

So I'm really excited about today's guest because we have a PhD who has studied the science of relationships and all the psychology and research that's out there about what men find attractive in women, what women find attractive in men, and what science says about what makes a lasting relationship work.

Her name is Dwayna Welch and she just came out with a new book called Love Factually, 10 proven steps for my wish to I do.

And today in our conversation Dwayna and I discuss what the research says about what are the most important attributes in a potential partner for a long lasting love and relationship?

We discuss what women find attractive in men and what you can do as a man to be a little more attractive to women.

We talk about the science of dating, what you can do to plan a first day that really swoops your gal off her feet, and what you can do before you're married to ensure that you have a long and lasting relationship.

Really fast into discussion, I think you're going to find this really interesting. So let's do this.

Dwayna Welch, welcome to the show.

Thank you so much, Brett. It's so nice to be here.

Okay, so can you tell us a little bit about your background and how your book Love Factually came to be?

Sure. Well, I'm basically a lifelong, I guess I'm a lifelong nerd really.

I went to school continually from the age of five to the age of 29 and then I became a professor.

And all my degrees are in psychology, I have a PhD in developmental psych.

And in somewhere during my graduate school years, I realized that my love life was just this complete train wreck.

I was doing really well professionally and I was doing really terribly romantically and having a good love life, having a special person in my life was really important to me.

I really connected with how much I wanted that and it wasn't happening the way that I needed it to happen.

And it just occurred to me one day that maybe some other nerds out there had actually made that their focus of study, how to find and keep good relationships.

And so I started looking into that and in fact, a lot of people had done that research and I started learning how to apply it to my own life.

So that's really where Love Factually's idea came from was, hey, I use this for myself. I use this for my clients. And now I want it to be available for everyone.

Okay. And so I mean, it's interesting that you can research scientifically relationships and love because you know, we have this popular idea that it's sort of this ethereal, you know, magical thing.

But I mean, how do you, I guess how do they research what makes for a good relationship? What other what men find attractive and women and what women find attractive and men? How do you quantify that?

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