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Episode 103, how do I talk my teen out of vaping? You know, we talk a lot about drug use, alcohol use, and then there's vaping.

And we decided to sort of dig right into this after we got this letter.

And it says, Dear Dr. DeMour, I've been an avid follower

and listener to your podcast and truly appreciate everything you share. My almost 13-year-old

daughter recently started vaping with some of her friends. We talked to her the first time we found

out about the dangers of vaping, and she promised not to do it again, but she did. What's your

advice here? Vaping is everywhere around

her school, friends, even her soccer team. We've suggested things that she could say when someone

offers it to her, but I don't think that's working. She's easily influenced by her peers.

Thank you for any advice and thank you for all that you do. You know, you brought this up

when we saw this in our inbox, like we should do an episode on vape, but I'm like, really, is this a

big deal? Is it? It is a big deal. It is a big deal. It is surprisingly common. We have data showing

that lots of teens and tweens vape. And one of the things that's especially concerning is that you see it in middle school, right?

I mean, we don't want to see it at any age.

But 13 is usually eighth grade.

And we are seeing that there are significant percentages of tweens and also teens who try vaping

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