102: Personal Battles with Fear & Shame Due to LDS Eternal Marriage Theology

Latter Day Struggles

Valerie Hamaker

Religion & Spirituality, Spirituality, Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Religion

4.4 • 721 Ratings

🗓️ 10 March 2023

⏱️ 36 minutes

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Send us a Positive Review! Series Title: Psychological Health Check on LDS Theology of Marriage & Family [Part VII of XII] In this final autobiographical portion of this series focusing on the complexities of the LDS eternal marriage doctrine, Valerie and Nathan reflect on their own relationships with fear and shame as driving forces in their own formative years. This conversation spans several topics including fears around singlehood (and the deep psychological wounds inflicted by the c...

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0:00.0	Hi, Latter Day struggles, friends and fans.
0:03.1	We know that navigating a faith crisis can feel overwhelming, especially when it impacts our closest relationships, our parents, our partners, and our kids.
0:13.2	That's why Valerie has created two online self-paced classes to help.
0:17.3	The first is a couple's guide to faith crisis and expansion.
0:20.7	This class is here for a partner
0:21.9	or couple who want to navigate faith shifts with mutual respect and deeper connection. Next is
0:26.8	a family's guide to mixed faith parenting. This class offers tools to help parents develop
0:30.7	greater harmony and understanding when belief differences arise within our families. Both classes are
0:35.7	packed with helpful tools and perspectives that can
0:37.9	give you hope and a way forward. So if you're looking for a little guidance on this,
0:41.6	visit ladderday struggles.com to learn more Day Struggles. This is your host, Valerie. So grateful to be with you on this pretty provocative series. We keep talking about it because we keep getting so much feedback from you out there that you are really benefiting from our tackling of
1:12.0	the fraught and complex and unintended consequences of the eternal marriage doctrine here in
1:18.3	the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. So it's great to have my own eternal companion here
1:24.3	by my side. Hello, Nathan Hammaker. How are you today? I'm good. How are you, Valerie Bailey?
1:29.9	Good. Good to be. I wasn't expecting when I think when I hear my name, I think of myself as a missionary.
1:35.0	Right. Sister Bailey. That's how we actually met you all know. I was Sister Bailey in his eyes before I was
1:40.9	anything else. So I have often thought back on a conversation we had a long time ago
1:45.1	when we got married and you took my name because patriarchy says you're supposed to take your
1:51.3	husband's name. Right. And you said to me since then, don't you wish you had taken my name?
1:57.3	I know. And I thought, yes, Bailey is such a much much more beautiful name than Hamaker and so much easier for my name. I know. And I thought, yes, Bailey is such a much, much more beautiful name than
2:02.8	Hamaker and so much easier for my patients to pronounce and things. Maybe we need to work on that.
2:08.3	Maybe we need to actually change our name to Valerie and Nathan Bailey. Sure. That's, you know,
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