102 // How to be Assertive
The Mindful Kind
Rachael Kable
4.6 • 636 Ratings
🗓️ 1 November 2017
⏱️ 9 minutes
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Summary
Hello and welcome to episode 102 of The Mindful Kind podcast!
This is the second episode of the mini-series about communication, so if you haven't already, you might like to listen to the episode 101 for an introduction to communication.
In this episode, you'll discover more about assertiveness, including:
- Examples of what assertiveness is
- Some basic assertive rights - to see the full list, here is the link: https://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/1085484-when-i-say-no-i-feel-guilty-how-to-cope---using-the-skills-of-systema
- Simple tips for being more assertive
Tip 1 // See the situation from another person's perspective and notice if it would actually be helpful for you to share your real opinion.
Tip 2 // Know that it's ok to change your mind.
Tip 3 // Try not to take it personally if someone doesn't respond well to your assertiveness.
Tip 4 // Be assertive as soon as possible to avoid over-thinking it.
I hope you have a wonderful week, Mindful Kind.
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hello everybody and welcome to the mindful kind. |
| 0:07.5 | I'm your host, Rachel Cable, and I'm here to share insights into my mindfulness journey |
| 0:12.3 | and inspire you to create your own. |
| 0:14.9 | Each week, this podcast will bring fresh and exciting news about mindfulness, |
| 0:19.7 | from my personal experiences to useful tools and different |
| 0:23.6 | mindful techniques. |
| 0:32.6 | Hello and welcome to episode 102 of the Mindful Kind podcast and the second part of the mini-series about |
| 0:38.8 | communication. This episode I'm excited to say is all about assertiveness and sharing your |
| 0:45.1 | opinion. I'll be talking about a few personal experiences of mine as well as some basic |
| 0:50.5 | assertive rights and some useful tips for implementing assertiveness. This is an area |
| 0:56.2 | of communication where I've struggled a lot in the past and I still find it challenging today. So |
| 1:00.9 | I can't wait to share a few things I've learned about this important communication skill. |
| 1:07.1 | Assertiveness is about being able to stand up for yourself and your needs or ask for what you want without being aggressive. |
| 1:13.6 | It's about being able to stay calm and communicate in a way which is respectful of yourself and others. |
| 1:19.6 | And it's not necessarily about getting things your way or making people agree with you. |
| 1:25.6 | It's simply about being heard and at least getting your point |
| 1:28.7 | across in an appropriate way. In 1975, Manuel J. Smith published a book called When I Say No, |
| 1:36.6 | I feel guilty, which included a bill of 20 assertive rights. I'm actually going to read out some |
| 1:42.9 | of these rights because I think they're really important to know and to use this guidance when you're practicing being assertive rights. I'm actually going to read out some of these rights because I think they're |
| 1:44.5 | really important to know and to use this guidance when you're practicing being assertive. |
| 1:49.1 | If you'd like to see the full list, I have included the link in the show notes. So here are some of my |
| 1:54.7 | favorites. You have the right to say no. You have the right to offer no reasons or excuses for justifying your |
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