102: Controlling the Emotional Freight Train

Relationship Advice

Colter Bloxom

Relationships, Mental Health, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.4 • 1.7K Ratings

🗓️ 5 July 2017

⏱️ 51 minutes

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Summary

Maureen Hosier is a licensed psychologist, specializing in the troubled dynamics of individuals in their romantic relationships and in their family and work place relationships. Maureen and her sister, Berta Hosier Conger, co-authored two books titled, You'll Do Anything for Her and You'll Do Anything for Him. They look at a common issue for many in relationship, both men and women, who give up themselves to make the relationship work. They have developed a framework for understanding the dynamics of individuals who find themselves stuck in an emotionally reactive and emotionally painful situation with their partner and who are frightened that they are destroying their relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How we are emotionally triggered and how to deal with an emotionally reactive position. Why it's important to interrupt your emotional reactions. Understanding that you cannot change the other person in your relationship. Why both partners have to want to change who they are emotionally. How to avoid the impossible situation of trying to take care of your partner. And much more! Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/102 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	You're going to. Take me to the place in the middle of the sun. What's going on, going on, what, I do,
0:23.0	I'll sing this songs in a one-by-a-one.
0:27.0	What's going on, guys?
0:31.0	Welcome to I-Doo Podcast, where we interview the world's leading relationship, marriage, dating, and self-help experts.
0:38.0	Thank you for joining us on the show today.
0:41.0	On today's show, we welcome Dr Maureen Hozier and Dr Hozier is a licensed
0:48.3	psychologist specializing in trouble dynamics of individuals in their romantic relationships and in their
0:55.0	family and workplace relationships. She has been practicing for 25 years and
1:00.9	she has a ton of great knowledge for us on today's show.
1:06.2	We really dive deep into how to derail the emotional fright train. So how to stop yourself when you're going down a path of
1:18.1	emotional reactivity. And I know personally that this is probably one of the biggest areas that I've been working on and found it extremely helpful to Sarah and I's relationship and I imagine a lot of you guys listening can relate that there's these
1:36.8	things that come up sometimes it can be as silly as taking out the trash but
1:41.3	their emotional triggers.
1:43.6	And suddenly we find ourselves boiling with anger
1:46.9	or frustration or anxiety and the emotions take over.
1:50.9	And Dr. Hozier talks about where this comes from, how it's formed in early
1:55.8	childhood, how to recognize it and then how to deal with it in the relationship.
2:01.0	So there is a ton of great information. I have found it extremely
2:06.4	important before learning this in other podcasts, but then we revisit it with Dr. Hozier and that is just extremely important for
2:17.6	myself improving in our relationship so I hope that you guys find it valuable as well.
2:25.0	And stay tuned for during the interview where Maureen talks about how to change your reactive self.
2:33.6	So she gives you some bullet points, some tools
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