10 Ways to Stop Irritating Power Struggles Without Reacting #489

Calm Parenting Podcast

Kirk Martin

Education, Society & Culture, Relationships, Social Sciences, Science, Self-improvement, Kids & Family, Parenting

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🗓️ 15 June 2025

⏱️ 24 minutes

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Summary

Before I was the Calm Guy, I was the Triggered Guy! My default mode was, “My strong-willed son is doing things on purpose to irritate me and I need to correct him for that.” But then I learned how to turn those irritating behaviors and power struggles into opportunities to teach and bond. I give you 10 practical action steps and scripts.

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Transcript

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1:04.2	So before I was the Calm guy, I was the triggered guy. My default mode was, my strong-willed son is doing things on purpose to
1:12.5	irritate me and I need to correct him for that. How many of you can relate to that? So on this
1:18.3	episode of the Calm Parenting Podcast, I want to show you how you can stop being triggered
1:23.1	and start actually connecting with your kids even when they do irritating things because they do and they will.
1:31.3	So welcome, this is Kirk Martin, founder of Celebrate Calm, and you can find us in our summer stop being triggered sale.
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1:40.3	It is also Father's Day, so I send my highest respect to all the dads who are working hard to break these generational patterns and create a new family tree.
1:53.1	Most of you are like me. Your father didn't show you how to control your emotions or connect with your wife and kids.
2:00.3	So you are learning on the job with no training.
2:04.6	And I want you to know it's worth the hard work and I'm proud of you
2:08.6	for doing for your own kids what your dad may not have been able to
2:13.6	or what may not have done for you.
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