10 Things We Wish We Knew in Our 20s

Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

Being Well

Health & Fitness, Education, Self-improvement, Mental Health

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🗓️ 18 March 2024

⏱️ 59 minutes

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Summary

Our 20s are a unique decade filled with opportunity…including the opportunity to make a lot of mistakes. On today’s episode, Dr. Rick and Forrest share (roughly) 10 things they wish they’d known back then. They explore the balance of enjoying freedom with the compounding value of effort, a framework for finding meaning and purpose, and some of the common pitfalls that keep us stuck. Regardless of where you are in life, you’ll learn how to find and embrace your natural talents, appreciate meaningful relationships, and see things in a new light. You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 1:35: The importance of the choices you make in your 20s 4:45: Balance the freedom of youth with the value of action 8:00: Embrace mentorship 13:40: Find the Three Circles: Talent, Enjoyment, and Values 21:30: Try things, and let yourself change 24:20: Avoid getting stuck (and codependent relationships) 27:35: Identify useful feedback 31:00: Avoid swerving away from natural talents, kindred spirits, good advice, and failure 36:05: The intrinsic value of creating, and lightening up about results 38:25: Focus on where you have agency 44:45: Appreciate relationships based on shared values 46:55: You get to decide what your relationships look like 47:50: Showing appreciation for your younger self 49:50: Recap Forrest is now writing on Substack, check out his work there. Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Get your stand on with UPLIFT Desk! Go to UPLIFT Desk.com/BEINGWELL for 5% off your order of one of their fantastic standing desks or office products. Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Trust your gut with Seed’s DS-01 Daily Synbiotic. Go to Seed.com/BEINGWELL and use code 25BEINGWELL to get 25% off your first month. Start each day right with IQBAR’s bars, hydration mixes, and mushroom coffees. Just text BEINGWELL to sixty-four thousand (64-000) and get an exclusive offer of 20% off plus free shipping. Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hello and
0:05.0	welcome to being well, I'm Forrest Hansen.
0:07.0	If you're new to the podcast,
0:11.0	thanks for joining us today. And if you've listened before, welcome back.
0:15.0	I'm joined as usual by Dr. Rick Hansen.
0:18.0	Rick is a clinical psychologist. He's a best-selling author, and he's also my dad.
0:22.0	So dad, how are you doing today? I'm good and
0:24.5	thoroughly psyched about our topic. Yeah I've been really looking forward to
0:29.4	this one today we're going to be talking about what we wish we knew much earlier in life.
0:35.0	We're focusing specifically on our 20s.
0:38.0	For me, I'm reflecting on this from the perspective of somebody who's 30 years old, Rick's perspective, let's just say a little bit
0:45.2	further along than that. I'm in early late middle age. Early late middle age.
0:50.6	All right. What, hey, do you have your AARP card yet that? I'm not going to answer that question.
0:57.1	Is that is that excessively disclosing? You can get it at age 55, so I would say I'm only
1:02.1	only 55. I don't hide my age, so I would say I'm older than 55. I don't hide my age so I'm 71. 71 yeah great but you're a young
1:07.9	71 dad you're a very youthful 71. That's early late middle age. Yeah you're in in great shape, you're doing great in life, you've got biceps, you've been working out in your in your home gym. It's really all going great for you. So all jokes aside, I've come up with a list, Rick has come up with a list, and I actually don't know what he's going to say.
1:27.5	So I'm really kind of excited to find out vice versa.
1:30.7	Along with everyone else, yeah, we've kept these hidden from each other so we're going to be
1:34.0	discovering along with our listeners here. So first let me first ask you, do you feel that you are old
1:40.5	enough now to be able to reflect productively about what you wished
1:47.3	you'd known when you were 21. Yes and here's why. Okay. I think that this is such a key moment in people's lives.
1:57.7	This 10-15-year period between, I'm 36 years old, so between when I was 20 and 36 16 years. I feel so
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