Hey, friends, welcome back to the love and relationships podcast. I'm your host, Deborah Felita,

and I'm so glad you're tuning into these candid conversations about love, sex, dating, singleness,

and marriage. For those of you who don't know me or are tuning in for the first time,

I'm a licensed professional counselor and author specializing in relationship issues.

I also run the Relationship Advice blog True Love Dates.com, reaching millions of people with the message that healthy people make healthy relationships.

If you've tuned into the podcast before, you know it's a hotline style show, meaning people call in or write in with their

relationship questions and I answer them on this show in short, practical, bite-sized answers.

If you have a question that you want me to answer on the show, send it via email or voice memo

to Deborah at true lovedates.com or check out my podcast page true lovedates.com slash love and relationships

and I'll do my best to get it answered on one of the episodes. So let's get started.

So the last episode of the love and relationships podcast, I answered a question from a caller

asking what kind of guys she should avoid.

And so last week's episode was 10 guys you should never date.

And here's the thing about it.

In all fairness, let me just say healthy relationships aren't just about avoiding the wrong kind of guy or finding

the right kind of guy. Healthy relationships are always a two-way street. So you need to become

healthy. You need to become the best version of yourself because you're 50% of the equation too.

And even if you find the perfect other person, which doesn't exist, but even if you do, you're 50% of the equation too. And even if you find the perfect other person,

which doesn't exist, but even if you do, you've got to work on becoming healthy and whole

while standing alone in order for a relationship to go somewhere, to have the potential

of going somewhere. But with all that said, here's the thing. There are definitely red flags when it comes

to people we're dating. And today, for all the men out there, we're going to do the flip side

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