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On this episode of the multi-ammery podcast, we're talking about being a secondary

while still putting yourself first. So any of you who've listened to us a lot know that normally at

multi-amory we are not the biggest fans of hierarchical relationships, meaning

having primaries and secondaries. But at the same time we understand that this is still a very common thing within the Polly community and there are some things that you can definitely do being a secondary partner to someone who is in a hierarchical relationship

or if you are a secondary who's dating a couple. There are things that you can do to help take care of yourself

and that those relationships can be good.

And so that's what we're going to go through today on this episode.

Yeah, so to kind of kick things off, first let's talk about that terminology primary secondary in the first

place. You may be a quote-unquote secondary partner and that's very clear to you

you know that's been very clearly

labeled to you you know so maybe you started dating somebody who said well I have my

primary partner so-and-so and so you know that means that you're my secondary

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