This is self-work and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford at self-work. We'll discuss

psychological and emotional issues common in today's world and what to do about

them. I'm Dr. Margaret and self-work is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today for your own self-work.

Hello and thanks for being here at self-work. I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. I'm a clinical

psychologist out of Fayeville, Arkansas. And I started this podcast last year because I really

wanted to extend the walls of my practice to anyone that might be interested in psychological emotional issues.

Those of you who have been in therapy and are very comfortable with the idea of seeking help or

seeking therapy, but also to those of you who might be curious about what a

mental health professional I'd have to say, but have never darkened the door of a therapist. So hopefully self-work

will give you some ideas of what therapy might feel like. It's not therapy, but it

could get you started in the right direction.

Today we're going to be talking about borderline personality disorder

and of the exhaustion and guilt that can come from someone who's trying to love someone with borderline never being

enough. Now borderline personality disorder could be a podcast episode in fact it could

be several podcast episodes all by itself And I will go over the criteria for borderline

personality disorder, but this episode is more for people who may feel very

guilty because they're coming up short all the time, or at least they get

told by someone with borderline that they're not enough.

What a personality disorder is, basically, is it is a dysfunctional way of relating to other people.

There's several of them, borderline being just one, but we'll go over the traits of borderline in a few minutes.

Then I'm going to suggest nine ways of letting go of that guilt.

As I sit here and talk about this, I realize that these are probably good steps for anyone

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