This is self-work and I'm Dr Margaret Rutherford.

At self-work we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues

common in today's world and what to do about them.

I'm Dr Margaret and self-work is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today for your own self-work.

Hello and welcome to self-work. I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. This past week has been a very

difficult one for many as two very prominent people in our culture died by

suicide. So I wanted to do kind of a special edition of self-work today

just to reach out to those of you who may have been affected or triggered in some

way. So although we've done other episodes about suicide, 74 talked about whether or not

suicide is predictable. 52 talked about how to care for yourself if someone you know

committed suicide. This episode is going to tie together

not only suicide but perfectionism and what I term perfectly hidden depression.

And I fervently believe that there's one question that we need to ask each other all the time.

And that question has to do with vulnerability.

So please listen if you're triggered by your own depression. Listen if you're triggered by your own depression,

listen if you're triggered by your fear for someone else,

and I hope this is helpful to you.

We are going to do a listener email today.

It's from a man in his 30s who had several important relationships

break up and is feeling a lot of shame and failure and depression. I do want to

offer a trigger warning because we will talk openly about suicide so

please if you listen listen with care and I have included the suicide hotlines

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