This is self-work and I'm Dr Margaret Rutherford.

At self-work we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world

and what to do about them.

I'm Dr Margaret and self-work is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today for your own self-work.

Hello and welcome or welcome back to self-work.

I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford.

We're going to be talking today about something that I really see a lot.

The victim savior relationship.

It's a terrible way to start a relationship,

but so many people do it.

And in so doing, we're going to be talking about boundaries.

What does it mean when someone says they don't have good boundaries?

A lot of this is going to be based on the book that I read, and I can't tell you the title of it,

because this is a show with clean lyrics.

It's the subtle art of not giving a, okay you can look it up, an F by Mark Manson who is a blogger and who has millions of followers, but my book club was reading the book and

so I decided I would read it. He divides people into groups, what he calls victims

and savors, I call them saviors.

What he may not know is he's actually talking about a part of what's called the

Karpman triangle in psychology and we'll touch on the Karpman Triangle.

We'll discuss common responses when you may try to set a boundary in a relationship,

what it tends to do with people.

Here at self-work, we talk about again what I call common

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