Porn Free Radio, Episode 53.

So I was in a men's group about six years ago.

I was leading it with my friend Charles.

And we like to start off every men's group by sharing a little bit about our stories.

The goal is to sort of model vulnerability to talk about our past and to kind of

invite other guys to share at a deeper level. You know, men have a hard time going deep and

really talking about what's really at stake in their heart and what they've done. And,

you know, there's a lot of vulnerability that gets missed in our normal interactions with other guys.

So we try to go really deep. So imagine this. There's six men and there's Charles and I

and we're the small group leaders.

And Charles says, I'll go first. So Charles tells his story and he tells about his childhood.

He tells about pain. He tells about struggles. He goes deep. And, you know, the guys are all nodding and they're all you know by you know really kind of getting in it's

very quiet you could hear a pin drop okay so then it's my turn to share now because charles is shared

so deep i figure well i should just go even harder at this so i i share and I try to get into all the stuff I've done and all the stuff

I've gotten into and then all the things I've done in recovery. I explain all the boundaries

that I've put in my life and I talk about, you know, my filters and my accountability partners and all this stuff.

And I basically make it sound like I'm the worst of all porn addicts of all time.

And so I'm feeling pretty good about myself.

I'm like, I really put it out there.

I really came real with this.

And, you know, the guys are just totally quiet. And Charles

says, you know, are there any questions? And one thoughtful guy leans back in his chair. And he looks

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