Welcome to the Empowered Wife podcast where it's all about fixing your relationship without your

man's conscious efforts so that you feel desired, taking care of, and special, even if

your relationship feels completely hopeless. I'm Laura Doyle and today I'm talking about how to stop the silent treatment. I'm going to share three steps

to end the suffering when your husband won't speak to you. My guest R2 was lost about why your husband was always working and never seemed to have time for her or the family,

but she was truly shocked when he told her he didn't have the same feelings for her anymore.

She figured he was going through a midlife crisis, but it wasn't until

she made another kind of discovery that she got the breakthrough she wanted in her

marriage. Then I'll be giving out the worst relationship advice of the Week Award and once it pointed out you won't be able to unsee how terrible this commonplace advice really is.

All that's coming up, but first let's talk about how to stop the silent treatment.

When your husband is giving you the silent treatment, it hurts a lot.

I still remember how lonely it was when we had cold wars at my house.

Your brain goes into an endless loop of thinking about how to get him to talk to you again.

It gnaws at you and it colors everything else in your world. You've already tried begging and pleading and confronting and

none of that works and giving him the silent treatment right back that just

creates a cold war so how can you ever get connected again? How do you stop these endless

hostilities? Here's how to end a marital Cold War in a hurry. Step one,

examine your side of the street

Of course the breakdown is his fault too he's definitely responsible for his part

But to break the ice a great question to ask yourself is,

what can I see on my side of the street that contributed to this cold war?

You then have the key to the door you've been pounding on.

When someone doesn't want to talk to me, it's usually because I've said

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