This is self-work and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford.

At self-work we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues

common in today's world and what to do about them.

I'm Dr. Margaret and self-work is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today for your own self-work.

Hi, I cannot believe that this is the 30th episode of self-work. I'm so excited to be with you today

I'm Dr. Margaret. I'm a clinical psychologist in Fayetteville, Arkansas I've been practicing over 25 years and I started to

podcast because I wanted one to extend the walls of my practice to other people

and perhaps pass on some of the wisdom that I've learned through the years from my own patients.

But I also want to start a conversation and be part of a conversation about mental health.

Too many of us believe there's some kind of stigma about going to therapy or talking about

mental illness or simply emotional and mental struggles that we have.

I'm here to not only talk about some of my own,

but to help guide you through what I know about change and the processes of our minds and our

hearts. So welcome. Today we're going to be talking about criticism. I told my husband what

this podcast was about and he immediately said that he gives criticism very well and that's all he said. But how do you

give it well and then how do you receive it well? There's the distinction of

course between constructive criticism and destructive

criticism, but I think sometimes the criticism gets lumped into just one batch.

What one person may think is constructive, another may not.

And certainly in relationships, we have to talk about things that we're disappointed about.

We're going to talk about the book, How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It, a book that many people

like, and how the authors of that book describe the dynamic about how criticism, disappointment can be

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