So I'm sure that we've all had the experience talking to someone and when you're talking

to this person and something's clearly like something's clearly up with the person like

you know that they are clearly upset there's clearly something going on and you ask the

question what's wrong what is almost always their answer nothing okay good thank you so

much I was like I was expecting getting much different answers the answer is I was nothing

nothing nothing and sometimes I don't know sometimes they can be absolutely infuriating

just tell me please what's wrong nothing what's wrong nothing what's wrong now sometimes

it there is you just like sometimes I don't have an answer right sometimes I'm just like

I want you to dig it out of me because sometimes we need to know that the person asking us

what's wrong they really actually care to know what's wrong but sometimes when we are

asked that question what's wrong and we say nothing sometimes I think it's because

the real answer is I don't know like I'm not I'm not sure I don't exactly know because

something I've ever had this experience where something's wrong but you're like but I

don't think it should be like I I should be happy like maybe you had that experience where

you like maybe when you came to college or maybe when you got your first job or maybe

and you know here's you know two weeks after you got married that kind of thing of like

what's wrong I don't know because I I should be it should be all good and sometimes it

is sometimes I am but even then something's wrong and I think when we come up against that

that that question of what's wrong I think a lot of times either our default is denial

and nothing or a default is distraction where I don't know what it is but I'm not going

to think about it so I'm just going to go back to you know I've ever gotten to the thing

where you finish a series on Netflix or Hulu or whatever and you're like I need to find

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