Hello and welcome to the Empowered Wife podcast where it's all about fixing your relationship without your man's conscious efforts so that you feel desired, taken care of, and special.

Even if your relationship feels completely hopeless, I'm Laura Doyle and today we're talking

about how to get your husband to listen. I'm going to share four ways to speak the

language husbands like and understand. My guest Sue was just starting her third marriage when she realized

they were fighting all the time and her husband wasn't really in. Marriage counseling didn't help

until the counselor gave her a Post-it note with a clue on it.

Today her marriage is loving, respectful, intimate, comfortable, and

optimistic.

She's going to tell us how she created that.

And then I'll be giving out the award for the

worst relationship advice of the week which is so popular that has become part of

the language. So it sounds really, really true, but it didn't work for me, didn't work for the listener who

sent it in, it's probably not working for you either.

All that is coming up, but first, let's talk about four ways to get your husband to listen. Having the same conversation again and

again, the one that turns into an argument or a cold war every time, gets old fast.

But when your husband isn't holding up his end of the parenting, finances, or the household maintenance,

you end up stuck holding the bag, which is exhausting.

And you're likely to get resentful if you don't say something, but what if he gets irritable whenever you mention a particular topic?

Or what if every time you bring it up, it isn't a good time?

What if he just won't listen?

If he'll never talk about it, how will things ever get better? It can make you

feel hopeless. Here are four secrets to talking so he can hear you. One, appreciate something he's already doing. Husbands crave appreciation.

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