This is self-work and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford.

At self-work, we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world

and what to do about them.

I'm Dr. Margaret and self-work is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today

for your own self-work.

Hi, I'm Dr. Margaret and welcome back.

We're welcome to Self-Works. We're going to be talking today

about do you and your partner really need therapy. I mean how bad is bad. Now we're not going

to be focusing on abusive relationships because that's a whole

another level of trouble and pain that really deserves its own podcast.

In fact, the last podcast was on people staying in abusive relationships and why they do.

That might interest you.

But today we're going to be talking about very common problems in relationships.

And again, my focus is always on what you can do about them.

First we'll talk about John Gottman's four horsemen of marital disaster, four things that could be going on in a relationship

that really doom it.

We'll touch briefly on making the decision whether to go into individual therapy or if couples

therapy is really the best idea.

Then we'll talk a little bit about misperceptions, especially about couples work.

And we'll also discuss the recognition of what might be behind or underneath those common beliefs.

Then I'm going to give you some great books on relationships, some of them you may have

heard of, some of them you may not have, because I truly believe that a lot of couples can

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