Welcome everybody to the adult chair. My name is Pete Wright here with

Michelle Schalfont. How are you Michelle? I am doing wonderful. How are you Pete? I am doing well. I'm feeling good after our

after our run of therapeutic podcasts these last several weeks. I'm feeling strong. We started, you know, we start, I think it

goes back all the way to our, you know, talking about the creating the best relationships

with ourselves several weeks ago and then fighting kind of the fables, the stories we tell ourselves.

But wow, this last run of addictions and co-dependency and love addiction, love avoidance with Sarah Bridge last week.

We keep moving in this direction

of needing to learn more about who we were

when we were impressionable and small.

I think there's a common thread or a few common threads in love addiction, love avoid and

you know busting our story, all of these things. There are two

common threads, let's say. One is we have to learn how to become our adult, our

healthy adult, which is in my words to bring that adult chair in and sit in it and live from

that place but when we do that we connect to our child which means I'm connected

to what I'm feeling and what my true needs are.

True feelings and true needs. I'd like to offer a meditation.

Excellent. Yeah I really feel like it's so important so So many of us, I've lost track. I mean, most people don't know what they're feeling. In fact, when I asked them that question and in sessions in my office, most people say, I don't know. do you mean or or they'll use a

statement versus a true feeling they'll say something like well you know I just

felt like I you know when if I say well how did that

when so and so did that or when that happened they'll respond with something like well I

really felt like I I might need to quit that job.

I'll say no that's a day to yes so what's the emotion what's the true feeling there and

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