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Yeah, so we've put together this group of

fundamentals episodes that are episodes that we often reference in other

episodes. So if you want to get kind of a basic foundation of our key communication tools or basic concepts that get referenced a lot, this is the place to be.

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What I see that's really spoken about in sort of the monogamous framework is they tell people to rely

on the structure itself for their security.

And then what I see is that doesn't really work, and it doesn't actually really work in monogamy either.

But and so one of my emphasis is that you know don't depend on the structure you might still have certain structures, but don't depend on that for secure attachment in your relationship

depend on the relational experience that you have. How are you treating each other? How are you showing up with each other? That's what matters.

Welcome to the Multiamery Podcast. I'm Jace. I'm Emily and I'm Dedicher. We believe in looking to the future of relationships not maintaining the status quo of the past so whether you're monogamous

Polyamorous swinging

casually dating or if you just do relationships differently, we see you and we're here for you.

On this episode of the Multiamery Podcast we're speaking with Jessica Fern

psychotherapist public speaker and trauma and relationship expert and she is the author of the upcoming book

Poly Secure attachment trauma and consensual non-monogony. Today we're going to be

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