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Today's speaker is Christine Hasler, who is the author of expectation hangover. She was on my other podcast, the Sean Crox and sessions a few months ago when her book came out and she crushed it. She just blew our minds. And an expectation hangover is what happens. It's how we feel.

When the realities of our lives don't really match the expectations for our lives. And what we do. And actually what she's going to talk about in this particular clip is something called a compensatory strategy.

And that's what happens when something painful happens and we don't truly address it. We don't truly heal from it. And what we end up doing is creating a defense mechanism.

And this compensatory strategy, what it helps us to do is to compensate for our insecurities, our feelings of lack, our feelings of fear. And in the end, we don't truly feel fulfilled.

And so Christine talks about how she became an overachiever. And she looked for fulfillment through that. But other people might become a people pleaser, type a personality, a control freak, always seeking validation, a performer possibly, the comedian, the caretaker, the perfectionist.

And so all of us have these compensatory strategies and it's so helpful for us to kind of look inside, see it and also to find out or to figure out that it's not really the fulfillment that we're looking for.

And so take a listen and without further ado, here's Christine Hasler.

So I call these compensatory strategies. My particular brand was becoming an overachiever. I was like, well, if I'm not going to be liked, if I'm not going to fit in, then I better be successful.

I am not even going to get an A minus, I'm going to get A pluses in every single class. And so I became a doer, an achievement addict.

And that carried me forward. It was very successful externally. I went off to college. I was a double major in a minor. I graduated in three years. And then I do what all insecure people do. I moved out to Hollywood.

And I had an amazing life in Hollywood. I dated and yes, kissed some pretty recognizable people. Yeah. You know, once that happens and you're still not happy, you know you have a problem.

So I had everything. All the boxes were checked. You know, I had this checklist life tonight, checked them all. And there I was 26 years old, making all this money, Oscars, Golden Globes, the whole deal. Still not happy. Still trying to feel, fill this whole this void I had inside by external thanks.

And one day I just couldn't take anymore. I went up to my office and I quit. And I thought, you know, wow, I'm courageous. I took that leap of faith that I referenced earlier. And I didn't know about the free fall.

So the free fall began. And within six months, I went into massive depression because my whole identity was wrapped up in what I did. I went to lots of debt. I got disowned from my family. It was very close to.

I was diagnosed with an undiagnosed autoimmune disorder. And six months before my wedding, my fiance, not him, dumped me. Cold turkey. Walked out on me, never saw him again.

And I found myself in my bathroom floor. And especially ladies in the room, why do we go to our bathroom floors when we're really depressed? I mean, they're totally disgusting. But for whatever reason, that's where we go.

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