This is self-work and I'm Dr Margaret Rutherford.

At self-work, we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world and what to do about them.

I'm Dr. Margaret, and Self- Work is a podcast dedicated to you, taking just a few minutes today for your self-work.

Hi, this is Dr. Margaret.

Thanks so much for joining me on this podcast. I really appreciate it.

Today we're going to be talking about trust, regaining trust. And the title indicates

that perhaps somewhat counterintuitively, regaining trust is really a two-way street, not a one-way street.

So we'll be talking about regaining trust in the context of one or both partners having an affair. However, the steps that we're going to

go over can really be used for any kind of betrayal of trust. It doesn't have to

be an affair and I'll be using my work with couples who've had affairs as examples,

but I'll also be commenting from time to time about how that might look,

simply if it's a conflict with a friend or between a parent and child, not necessarily

between partners.

So the first thing we're going to talk about are why affairs happen.

There are few that are pretty common, and then a couple that you might not really think about.

Straight after that, we're going to get to the five steps of regating trust.

And we'll go over these in a fair amount of detail.

And then the third and last thing we'll do today

is that I'm going to read a letter from a listener

who wrote in about her postpart of depression,

how she was treated in the doctor's office

and some of the feelings she was left with

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