#002: What Makes a Relationship Able to go the Distance? with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

The Mark Groves Podcast

Mark Groves

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.9 • 5K Ratings

🗓️ 19 November 2018

⏱️ 54 minutes

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What makes long-term relationships go the distance? I’m speaking with author and licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Alexandra Solomon, who you might know as the “Relationship Architect” and author of the transformational book, “Loving Bravely.” We talk about what’s really needed to make a relationship work – spoiler alert — it goes way beyond good sexual chemistry (although that’s needed, too). Today, we bring you the tools that will get you started both as an individual and as a couple. Alexandra is a clinical assistant professor at Northwestern University teaching and training marriage and family therapy graduate students. In addition, she teaches the internationally renowned undergraduate course, “Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101.” If all of that wasn’t enough, Dr. Solomon is also a highly sought-after speaker and media commentator on relationship topics. In this episode, you’ll learn: How messages we received as children shape how we show up in relationships today (5:50) What makes relationships able to go the distance? (17:32) Primary sexual desire vs. responsive desire – is sexual chemistry different for men and women? (21:35) What does “sexy” mean for women? (29:30) When there is sexual disconnection in a relationship, what can the couple do? (44:45) And so much more! Dr. Alexandra Solomon Website - www.dralexandrasolomon.com/ Instagram - @dr.alexandra.solomon Book - Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Mark Groves podcast. I'm your host, obviously Mark Groves. That would make sense.
0:11.1	And on this show, we explore human psychology, why we do what we do, and how do humans connect,
0:16.6	and how do we create really thriving relationships? And how do we have a thriving relationship with ourselves?
0:22.0	Please subscribe to the podcast because that really helps me out and also allows you to get
0:27.2	all the updated episodes with experts in all areas of human psychology and just general
0:31.7	thriving in terms of life.
0:33.5	Also check out my website, www.markgroves.tv, to learn more about me and why I do what I do.
0:41.2	On this episode, I have Alexandra Salman, Dr. Alexandra Salman.
0:46.0	Let me get that correct.
0:47.6	Where your title on, what is it, the Helio website?
0:51.8	Mm-hmm.
0:52.8	Is relationship architect, which I absolutely love.
0:56.5	I love that concept that we are the architects of our own lives, our own relationships,
1:01.3	and the fact that you are helping people construct there is such a beautiful thing.
1:06.0	Alexander Salman is a clinical assistant professor at Northwestern University in beautiful Chicago-ish area
1:13.3	and a licensed clinical psychologist at the Family Institute at Northwestern as well.
1:18.1	And all-round amazing human being who I love.
1:22.4	And I wanted to call you because last time I saw you speak at Masters of the Universe Summit,
1:26.8	you talked about
1:27.5	desire and especially gave us some amazing insights into female desire. So I wanted to call you a
1:32.7	genius. Have you ever heard that there? That's the best. I love it. A genius. I heard that on
1:39.8	I heard that on New Girl because Schmidt had a had, there was a girl who was a lesbian and a
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