Dead Ass with Khadeen and Devale Ellis

Trying to do your best is always a good thing. Until it keeps you from doing anything at all. The Ellises and the crew discuss when perfectionism is low key self-doubt. Watch the full video version early on Patreon! Go to https://Patreon.com/EllisEverAfter to see the After Show and more exclusive Ellis Ever After video content. And find us on social media at @EllisEverAfterPodcast, @khadeniam and @iamdevale, @joshua_dwain @_matt.ellis, @tribbzthecool. And if you’re listening on Apple podcasts, be sure to rate, review and subscribe. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 11 June 2025

Trying to do your best is always a good thing. Until it keeps you from doing anything at all. The Ellises and the crew discuss when perfectionism is low key self-doubt. Watch the full video version early on Patreon! Go to https://Patreon.com/EllisEverAfter to see the After Show and more exclusive Ellis Ever After video content. And find us on social media at @EllisEverAfterPodcast, @khadeniam and @iamdevale, @joshua_dwain @_matt.ellis, @tribbzthecool. And if you’re listening on Apple podcasts, be sure to rate, review and subscribe. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 11 June 2025

We've all heard the terms "Black excellence" and "Black power", but what is the difference between the two? In this episode, Khadeen, Devale, Josh, Matt and Tribble discuss it. What do you think? Watch the full video version early on Patreon! Go to https://Patreon.com/EllisEverAfter to see the After Show and more exclusive Ellis Ever After video content. And find us on social media at @EllisEverAfterPodcast, @khadeniam and @iamdevale, @joshua_dwain @_matt.ellis, @tribbzthecool. And if you’re listening on Apple podcasts, be sure to rate, review and subscribe. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 4 June 2025

When it comes to being Black in America, the hoops we have to jump through just to be recognized as worthy are ever changing. But do you think code switching is harmful or necessary for Black excellence? The Ellises and the crew give their opinions in this episode, Dead Ass. Watch the full video version early on Patreon! Go to https://Patreon.com/EllisEverAfter to see the After Show and more exclusive Ellis Ever After video content. And find us on social media at @EllisEverAfterPodcast, @khadeniam and @iamdevale, @joshua_dwain @_matt.ellis, @tribbzthecool. And if you’re listening on Apple podcasts, be sure to rate, review and subscribe. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 28 May 2025

Watch the full video version early on Patreon! Go to https://Patreon.com/EllisEverAfter to see the After Show and more exclusive Ellis Ever After video content. And find us on social media at @EllisEverAfterPodcast, @khadeniam and @iamdevale, @joshua_dwain @_matt.ellis, @tribbzthecool. And if you’re listening on Apple podcasts, be sure to rate, review and subscribe. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 21 May 2025

What do you do when you're tired, worn out, at your max? Do you keep pushing through the stress? Do you take a break to recharge? Or do you even notice when you're on the verge of burnout? In this episode, The Ellises and the gang talk about burnout. How it feels to be tired and ambitious. Dead Ass. Watch the full video version early on Patreon! Go to https://Patreon.com/EllisEverAfter to see the After Show and more exclusive Ellis Ever After video content. And find us on social media at @EllisEverAfterPodcast, @khadeniam and @iamdevale, @joshua_dwain @_matt.ellis, @tribbzthecool. And if you’re listening on Apple podcasts, be sure to rate, review and subscribe.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 14 May 2025

We always talk about legacy and what we want to leave behind in. But beyond generational wealth, what does legacy really mean? In this episde, the Ellises talk about what wisdom they hope to impart on their four boys, and the crew joins in on the conversation. #DeadAss.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 7 May 2025

The old saying goes, you cannot receive with a closed fist. And when we hold onto the people, habits, and feelings that are no longer serving us, we miss out on the blessings that are meant for us. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale chat with the crew about being on their Queen Elsa ish...letting go. #DeadAssSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 30 April 2025

As we get older and our lives change, so do our relationships and the requirements we have for them. In this episode, the Ellises chat with the crew about what friendship looks like for them at their big big ages. #DeadAssSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 23 April 2025

We're baaaaaaacckkkk! And things are a little different. A new name, a new look, and a few new voices. But it's always and forever #DeadAss! In this episode, Khadeen, Devale and the crew talk about the changes ahead for the podcast, and what they're looking forward to in this new season.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 16 April 2025

The podcast formerly known as Dead Ass with Khadeen and Devale Ellis is now Ellis Ever After. The same great conversations with more knowledge, more opinions and more voices. Listen to full episodes of Ellis Ever After starting April 16th. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 9 April 2025

It's that time again! The Ellises get all up in your business and put their two cents in. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 18 December 2024

The Holiday season is here! That means spending time with family you haven't seen all year. In this episode, The Ellises talk grace and understanding when it comes to making amends before the family functions. Do we understand the intent behind the actions that cause rifts in the family unit? And are we communicating the impact that it had on our relationships? Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 11 December 2024

Styles change for every generation. The things certain styles used to mean to our generation, don't carry the same weight to our kids' generation. In this episode, Khadeen & Devale express how they address their fears when it comes to their kids' changing styles, while still trying to understand their perspective on trends, personal style and expression. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 4 December 2024

The dream of a lifetime for a woman in entertainment is to be the host of her own TV show. In this episode of A Day With Kay, Khadeen speaks with a woman who has made that dream, and many more come true. Khadeen talks with Sherri Shepherd about her journey to the top and what matters the most to her along the way. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 27 November 2024

There's a day that every boy Dad anticipates. The day that his son tries to knuck 'cause he is buck! In this episode, the Ellises discuss when that fateful day came for Devale and their oldest son. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 20 November 2024

When you've been in a relationship for a long time, you learn that every argument just isn't worth having. In this episode, The Ellises talk about how admitting when you are wrong, can be the best way to get along. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 13 November 2024

The secret to having a great marriage is keeping the spark alive. That means date nights, acts of service and having sex like two strangers who just met at a bar. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale discuss how they keep their relationship hot, steamy and interesting with casual sex. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 6 November 2024

Set your alarms, because Christmas is coming! And your new favorite Christmas movie, Meet Me Next Christmas is coming to Netflix on November 6th. Kalen Allen co-stars in the film alongisde Devale, and in this episode, the Ellises talk to him about how knowing exactly who he is has helped him reach the stars. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 30 October 2024

We might feel young, but when it comes to the fashion, technology, lingo and trends that our kids are hip to, we are completely out of the loop. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale talk about how they are trying to keep up with what their kids know, so that they can be better parents. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 23 October 2024

The first time sexologist and author Shan Boodram was on the show, she played the role of referee in a heated conversation about sex between this Ellises. 5 years, another child, and a vasectomy later, the conversation is a lot different. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 16 October 2024

As the oldest sister and the mother of four boys, Khadeen knows the value of having a bond with your siblings. Whether it's getting through the awkward parts of life with the help of a big sister, or banding together to get your parents to do what you want them to, the power that siblings have when they are close is unmatched. In this episode of Dead Ass Presents A Day With Kay, Khadeen talks to Etienne and Ivy Coco Maurice about how their bond and the love they have for each other helps them show up for our community in a big way. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 9 October 2024

After a long day of work, errands, and an attempt at self-care, the question every mom hates to hear - what's for dinner? In this episode of Dead Ass Presents A Day with Kay, Khadeen talks to food blogger, tv host and chef, Alex Hill, about how her love for creating fun, flavorful dishes, keeps her motivated to enthusiastically answer that question every single day. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 2 October 2024

While a lot of people think that men can't be faithful, we found four faithful Black men saying it doesn't serve them not to be. In this episode, Devale talks with the hosts of the Nice & Neat Podcast, Duke Inehacho, Omar Bolden and Jalon Webster, about why they chose monogamy. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 25 September 2024

After struggling with symptoms from PCOS, Candice Bolden took charge of her fate and changed her life. Now, just months after having her first baby, her struggles are totally different! #DeadAssSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 18 September 2024

The people are saying that millennials aren't hosting cookouts, family dinners, or upholding old traditions anymore. But is that true? In this episode, the Ellises discuss why it may seem like these new generations are losing recipes. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 11 September 2024

It's time for listener letters! But this time, the Dead Ass podcast producer, Tribble, steps out from behind the mic and joins Khadeen to give their best (not toxic at all) advice! Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 21 August 2024

After being diagnosed with breast cancer, Grace Azubike immediately sprung into action. In this episode of A Day With Kay, Khadeen talks to her dear friend Grace about her mission to help women survive. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 14 August 2024

A new mother to a child of her own, and a bonus mom to her partner's kids, Jasmin Brown is not worried about what the internet has to say. In this episode of A Day With Kay, Khadeen talks to our internet bestie WatchJazzy about the highs and lows of motherhood so far, her journey as a comedian and why the third time's a charm. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 7 August 2024

Sanya Richards-Ross is a mom, wife, entrepreneur and an Olympic medalist, many times over. For 18 years, she has been the fastest woman in America. But this year in at the Olympic games in Paris, we'll be watching to see if that record will make it to 19! In this episode of A Day With Kay, Khadeen talks with the world class athlete about her rise to track stardom, her family life, and being the owner of the official pajama line of the 2024 Olympic Games. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 31 July 2024

When it comes to social media, the trolls be trolling! But when you live authentically, ain't nothing nobody can tell you, that you haven't already said. In this episode, Khadeen sits down with comedia, social media star and podcast host, B. Simone, about her journey to not giving AF about what the comments say. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 24 July 2024

Sometimes you have to take the road less traveled to get to your dream. In this episode, Khadeen chats with her sister, Sakari, about her unconventional route to the nursing career of her dreams. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 17 July 2024

A Day With Kay is going on tour this September, and we're looking for the movers, shakers, motivators and stars in your city to tell their story! Write in to nominate yourself or someone you know to be feature in Chicago (9/5), Houston (9/8), Fort Lauderdale (9/20), or Los Angeles (9/22). Tell us why you think they should be featured. Send those letters to [email protected]. #DeadAssSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 16 July 2024

Devale is a star with a glow that can be seen from outer space. But don't get it twisted, Khadeen is the sun! In this episode, the Ellises talk about why A Day With Kay is a project they are pursuing now. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 10 July 2024

When we hear men talk about their perception of women, could they really be talking through the wounds they have in the relationship with their mother? In this episode, the Ellises talk about the psychological effects of mommy issues. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 3 July 2024

When you make a vow to have and to hold your spouse through sickness and in health, what you're really vowing to do is support your partner through life's changes. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale discuss supporting your spouse as they grow and change. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 26 June 2024

Knowing your spouse well is more than just knowing their likes and dislikes. It's also knowing their history. In this episode, the Ellises talk about how going back to Khadeen's father's home, St. Vincent, helped Devale get to know his wife a little better. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 19 June 2024

The way we see the world is determined by our personal experiences. But what we've been through isn't always the whole story. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale talk about the downfalls of choosing our perception over seeing reality. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 12 June 2024

His birthday might have passed, but the party don't stop! In this episode, the Ellises talk about what it took to surprise Devale with a late birthday party, and the growth they realized they've made in the process. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 5 June 2024

If you're a millennial, your parents are aging and it's about time that you have to take more responsibility for them than you ever have. That comes with managing their finances. But do you know how? In this episode, Khadeen and Devale talk about some of the ways you can start planning for your parents' future, now. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 29 May 2024

Whether it's the death of a loved one, the loss of a relationship, or a big life change, we all have to deal with grief at some point in our lives. It's not th same for everyone, and it's never easy. In this episode, the Ellises talk about their recent run in with grief and how they are dealing with it. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 22 May 2024

When it comes to living the life you want, are you going after your wildest dreams, or are you complacent with where you are now? That's the question Khadeen and Devale assess in this episode. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 15 May 2024

If you're lucky to still have your parents around, it's probably about time to start taking care of them. And not only that, but learning how to have hard conversations about estate planning and their future wishes. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale talk about the challenges that come with parenting their parents. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 17 April 2024

When we tell our kids how much we've sacrificed for them, we unknowingly create a guilty conscience in them that they will eventuall have to heal from. But they still need to learn how to be responsible and take things seriously right? In this episode, Khadeen and Devale discuss how they try to empower their kids without the guilt. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 10 April 2024

Yesterday was Devale's 40th birthday. And to prepare for this momentous occasion, he's been making sure his body is ready for the years to come. In this episode, Khadeen talks to Devale about what he's learned about his health, and what changes he's prepared to make to ensure his longevity. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 3 April 2024

The Ellis Family platform is built on love. Love for family, friends and most importantly, the people that support them. But do the fans love them back? And if they do, do they know how to act? In this episode, Khadeen and Devale share some awkward fan moments and discuss what supporters should consider before approaching their favorite celeb in public. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 27 March 2024

Kids learn how to communicate at every stage of childhood. And while they're still learning how to say how they feel and know what they need, our parent's intuition is like a super power. In this episode, the Ellises talk about how knowing their kids inside and out has helped them in dire times. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 20 March 2024

The littlest Ellis is 2 and has been learning, growing and living his best life. But when it comes to verbal expression, he doesn't do too much talking. In this episode, the Ellises open up about learning about Dakota's speech delay, and what they've been doing to help him catch up. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 13 March 2024

If you missed the Love Against The World Tour, sorry about your luck. The shows were packed, the crowds were hype and the Ellises and the Dead Ass team showed all the way out! In this episode, Khadeen and Devale talk about their favorite moments of the tour. Plus, find out if they've changed their minds about doing it again. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 6 March 2024

The Love Against The World Tour just ended and we went out with a bang! In this episode, the Ellises talk about how the creative direction for the tour came about and what it took to make it happen. Dead ass!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Transcribed - Published: 28 February 2024