Welcome to the Daily Dad podcast, where we provide one lesson every single day to help you with your most important job, being a parent.

I'm Ryan Holiday, and I draw these lessons from ancient philosophy, modern psychology, practical wisdom, and insights from

parents just like you all over the world. Thank you for listening, and we hope this helps.

Your job is to support your spouse.

We've talked before about the pioneering life of Sandra Day O'Connor, not just a mother, but the groundbreaking Supreme Court Justice.

Although she might have projected a very tough take-no-prisoners attitude, in truth she had fears and doubts like all the rest of us.

And she succeeded as all successful parents do with the help of a supporting cast.

When first called and offered the bench, O'Connor's heart sank.

I had a very happy life in Arizona.

She reflects in Evan Thomas' wonderful biography first.

I was a judge.

I liked my lifestyle, like my family, I liked where we lived,

and I didn't want to move to Washington, D.C. You have to do it, her husband said in encouragement.

He calmed her doubts. He reassured her. And most of all, he sacrificed. He had to leave the career he

had built. He agreed to move. He agreed to avoid lucrative cases that would have

presented conflicts of interest. And most of all, he had to accept a then much more unusual

gender role of being much less important or powerful than his wife. And in so doing, he allowed

her to be great. We've talked before about how our job as parents is to help our kids

become who they are. This is also our role as spouses. Man or woman, gay or straight, we have to

support. We have to sacrifice. We have to be willing to change. We have to help them reach their

destiny. We have to model this for our kids also.

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