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at zander dot com i have a i have an older brother who's 59 uh and uh he's being uh i guess

financially assisted and has been for a few years by our parents.

And I guess over the last three years or three years or so, our relationship has been

strained a little bit.

And I don't know if it's just, you know, equity in terms of, or, you know, being fair

in terms of support., you know, being fair in terms of support, um, or if it's, um, you know,

something that I don't have any say in. So like, um, so my brother is being, being, you

know, bailed out, uh, over the last, I guess 20 years or so, and it's gotten a little bit worse in the last

few years. And part of me is like, it's none of my business. It's between my parents and my

brother. But when my brother takes money from my parents, it's not that the, you know,

the Thanksgiving dinner

tastes different it doesn't taste different for him and I don't know why and maybe I

just need to deal with it but I'm concerned you know for my parents your parents

have the money to do this and still be okay they do okay okay it's just uh you know

it's pretty egregious now i mean he has two loans on his his house and he's he's got my

parents to take out a home equity loan on their house. Why?

I thought you said they had the money.

They do, but my dad did not want to sell appreciated stocks in a investment account. So he thought it was easier to take out some equity as opposed to realize a capital gain.

Who are you mad at?

You mad at your dad, he's my older brother. So I feel weird going to him to say cut it out because he's been doing it for so long.

And he feels maybe a little entitled to the money that he thinks he's going to get eventually.

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