What up my homies!

Lisa Biddyu here and homey do I have a treat for you! Alright, in this special very special episode, we're diving into an incredibly inspiring and powerful journey of resilience and transformation with none other than the remarkable Kimberly Shannon Murphy. Now if you don't know who Kimberly is, let me just say she's a woman who wears many hats. She's a survivor, an author and hold your breath and award-winning Hollywood stuntwoman. Yes, ma'amie, she jumped out of buildings and hung from helicopters, but what truly sets her apart is her unyielding spirit to turn the most heart-breaking adversity into freaking hardcore strength. So whether you're tuning in while you're sipping your morning coffee or during your evening wind down, get ready for candid, heart to heart chat for more Instagram live together that will leave you inspired and completely and utterly empowered. We touch on some very sensitive topics such as trauma that attracts trauma in adult relationships, surviving sexual abuse and breaking generation trauma against all odds and eliminating societal judgment around sensitive issues. So let's dive into this episode of IG live with my girl Kimberley Shannon Murphy and guys if this episode has brought you value please do subscribe, like, comment, share, do all the things to let me know that you really do dig this podcast and that together we are on a journey of impacting women. Alright without further ado let's go. What up everybody you fouriac? Hi what up? Hola, hi everyone I love seeing you guys let me know where you're all calling from so you've seen fun. Thank you I hopefully hopefully am fun. In fact, my husband actually mocks me sweetly, but still mocks me because I am used myself. And sometimes I just walk around singing to myself or sometimes I say something and I just start laughing and I just amuse myself. So it's hard, but still beautiful. Oh, thank you for me. All right. I'm just pouring my cap up. My cap up. decaf coffee guys. I'm on decaf now I've been having some like brain issues like some fogginess and I'm not sure if it's my hormones, so I'm just I'm so if you know me I very much want to optimize my My confidence and then optimize my brain and optimize my energy So I'm always adapting in my morning routine

or like oh, someone's greaq, what up? Yes, it's going by too quickly. I can't re-grick that quickly. So in a way, so I'm optimizing my health right now. And so if you follow me on my stories, I'm always doing things I've started co-plunging, I've started doing a sauna, and now I'm on the calf coffee. I actually tried to cut coffee completely,

and I realized I actually loved it as part of my morning routine,

and I'm on the calf coffee. I actually tried to cut coffee completely and I realised that I actually loved it as part of my morning routine and I'm such a fan of my morning routine that yes and now I'm on to the calf. So we've got people from China, yes, we've got some Greeks in the house and today guys I've got a special episode, especially episode, so used to be in one from my show. So I want to hear from you guys, actually. I'm thinking about doing IG lives every Thursday morning. I really want to connect with you guys. I feel like this is such a great way for me to hear what you guys are going through, what things you need, and just really connecting. It's such that it feels my heart so much that when I did it last week or when was it a couple of weeks ago I had so much fun because honestly touching base with you guys is why exactly I do what I do and knowing that what I'm doing is actually helping make a difference Is my north star? And so yeah, so I'm looking to potentially do some IG lives more often So let me know if you like that idea and then today I also want to bring on some homies of mine, either some friends that I know or people that I've had on my show that can really really serve you guys. I want to make sure that you guys have the tools that you need in order to either address any issues that you're suffering from or any problems that you have. I have a very very clear north star and so to me helping people actually make a change and not be as change but actually make a change is that and so yeah I got today my girl Kimberley if you guys haven't seen the episode that we just dropped on women of impact oh lives every Thursday morning yay Susan I like it seems like Susan's down for that great so I got Kimberley today, we just released an episode yesterday and guys my girl Dr. Varron when you hit me up and she doesn't often hit me up but she was like you've got to meet this woman you have to interview her so I was like all right you pay attention when the people you admire give you suggestions so I very much admire her I looked into Kimberley's world and holy smokes guys this This woman's a first of all, she's just a freaking badass. She's a stunt woman who jumps out of helicopters and three-story buildings. You just do a Google search for her and stuns for her camera windiers. So I was like, oh, shit, this woman's a freaking badass. Does she have to show up, did she come through fighting? And her story, the book that she wrote. Huh, guys, it moved me so much. I said, I absolutely have to have her on my show. What she stands for, what her book stands for. I'm just gonna say this now, in case you're in a car with kids, or in case this isn't a discussion that you guys, you know, can it may trigger you so I want to warn you ahead of time.

The her story is just insane and I've asked it to come and join me today just for, you

know, a good 20 minutes to come and ask answers and questions.

But her story from having trauma is such a young child and how that impacted her as an

adult.

To me was a great reflection of how so many people are suffering right now with past trauma that they've had in their childhood that they haven't necessarily addressed. Now, guys, it's like one in three women have had some form of sexual abuse. I am, it is just why happenstance and thank the Lord that I haven't. And the fact that that is purely freaking happenstance means that to me, I must show up and help you women or people that have gone through this that weren't in, didn't have the luck. I mean, it is freaking pure luck of where you were born and who your parents are and who your grandparents are and the environment that you were born in. And to just sit there and go, well, I guess I got lucky, it doesn't

sit well. So how do we actually create action? So today, Kimberly, I think if you're here,

let's see if you're here, click that she's not here yet. Click the camera button, homey,

so I can bring you up on video.

So if anyone's watching right now, we just dropped an episode on YouTube yesterday, so guys go check that out at YouTube slash one of your own pets. But Kimberly, so we hung out, we spent a long time together. I was rewatching our episode because I always like to kind of just see it as like a viewer as well. And coming you had me in tears, your story is crazy.

And in my interview, there was one thing that I want to pull out that I thought maybe this could be a great place where we start with people watching right now. Guys, put in the comments, if you've got any questions to Kimberly or for myself, we'll be answering them as we go. But I just want to kind of kick us off. So Kimberly, you talk about Well, you were married and you you you were in trauma and you found a guy who was also in trauma and you guys together ended up having a quite a traumatic relationship and in one in the interview you say, god, I actually wrote it down, but it's in my phone as well, I can't check it, but you said that when you're with someone who is very toxic over time, you start to feel like you're going crazy, that they make you feel like you're going crazy. And until you had to do, until you split and until you did the deep work, you just felt like you were going crazy. And so you were in so loft, I believe, right? For two years. So if you don't mind talking to me about, because there's

so many people right now that I think have these traumatic experiences or with someone toxic, if you don't mind explaining how you realize that actually you weren't crazy and that it was just two trauma people coming together and that was really cool. Yeah, so I think we, when we have of trauma in our childhood, I think we search.

That's what feels comfortable for us.

That's what feels comfortable comfortable for us. That's what our comfortable space feels like unfortunately. So it's not that we're doing it consciously. This is how I communicated my whole life. So I'm going to continue that in my relationship as an adult because that's all I know and that's that's what I with and so that's pretty much what I did and I think it's extremely common for people to do that and then what does happen most of the time is and we wind up marrying that person and then we if we decide to have children have children and then the trauma just keeps passing down generations generation. Instead of

you know healing ourselves and getting back to our authentic selves and being able to really look at things for what they are, which is thankfully what I was able to do to get to a place where I could be in a healthy marriage and be in a healthy relationship. Yeah, God. And that that the generational trauma wasn't something that I really was familiar with until I met Dr. Romney and then obviously talking to you and then going back and then realizing how it stems on potentially your parenting or the experiences you've had with your grandparents and things like that. So if you don't mind sharing some bit of your past, again, I'm going to be very delicate because I so respect you and how you want to handle you telling your story that I just, yeah, how would you like to share your story? My goal with my book was that I wrote this book for survivors and that is survivors of any sort of trauma, not just sexual abuse. That was my trauma, but that's who I wrote this book for. And so I was very careful in the way that I did it, that it isn't a triggering book. I didn't go into detail about what happens to me, but you still get the gravity of what I went through without having to dig deep into, you know, you don't need to know all of the, you know, the details of it to know that it happened. It was bad and, you know, I went through it. And it started at a young age for me and went on until my grandfather passed away. That's who my abuser was when I was 11 and through through my life and I was always very open about my story and telling friends and telling other women in my life and then them saying to me, oh my god the same thing happened to me. My uncle did this or my brother did this or my grandfather or my father. It was unbelievable to me how many women are actually abused in this way and how much more we need to speak about it because it's I feel like incest is something that is very taboo in the sense of people are there's a lot of fear around it there's a lot of shame around it.. People don't wanna hurt someone in their family's feelings and so they may not say certain things or be truthful to themselves. And so then the trauma just continues on and we just keep passing it on until someone stands up and says, okay, no, I'm gonna really look at this for what it is and we're gonna do better for our children and do better for the next generation. And that's why I wrote my book and I wrote it for people to feel less alone, for people to feel like they're not crazy because when you are going through, you know, a lot of people have repressed memories. I had a lot of repressed memories. And when you're going through through that you can feel really crazy and really alone and I did. And I always said that I wrote this book for my 15 year old self because if I would have had a tool like this when I was 15 going through all of that, I would have felt like, oh my gosh, here's a woman and she has been through something similar and she got through

it and not only did she get through it, but then she was able to have a healthy marriage and, you know, a child and a career and all these things which when you're kind of taken over by it, it feels impossible to get out. Thank you, girl. I so appreciate that and that's exactly how I felt when reading the book where it was like it was very empowering and it's very difficult to talk about such a freaking heart-wrenching story as yours and it being empowering and so that's why I you know just absolutely freaking adore you and I think everyone needs to be reading your book

because to your point, I had no idea

because I hadn't experienced it myself.

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