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I made the decision to loan out money to family and friends of mine in the total sum of just over $8,000.

And as time goes on, given the lifestyles that they lead, it's starting to leave a sour taste

in my mouth a little bit.

So I guess my question is, how do I hold them accountable to, you know, make me whole

and pay me back without, um,

straining the friendships and, um, my marriage, because I just got married in November.

And my wife, um, but, you know, this was before we got married, but she had vouched for

her, uh, cousin as somebody for me to loan out money, too. That's

three of the eight grand, and it's been over a year, and I've only seen, you know, 500 of it

since. What is your income? Yeah, just over 100. I'd sell software, so it's a little bit

variable, but it's been, you know,

over 100 for the past three years. Why did you become the lender?

Was it word of mouth? Hey, this guy will own you some money. Go to him.

So my wife's cousin originally owed money to who is now my mother-in-law and

the cousin didn't like how, um, difficult or tough to work.

It just, it sounded like the mother-in-law was trying to hold her accountable and put

her feet to the fire and was complaining to my wife about it.

And my wife kind of turned to me and said, hey, I know you've got some money.

Can we help her out?

And then my other friend just kind of knew that I was in a good position.

And I, I mean, he didn't ask me for the money. I just knew that he was in a good position. And he didn't ask me for the money.

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