So I know how you want the evening to go. You want your kids to go upstairs at the right time to take a bath or a shower.

You want them to brush their teeth, floss, brush their hair, do all their business, good hygiene, good attitude, and then get into bed,

and you're going to read them a book, and it's going to be awesome, and they're going to say,

Mom, Dad, we love our life, and we love that you care so much and spend this time with us and it makes us feel safe

before we go to bed so that we're going to sleep so well, wake up with a good attitude.

And that doesn't happen, does it? Right?

Because real life intervenes.

And what usually happens instead is that they fight you over all those little things that they already know to do

because you've had the same routine since they came out of the womb and they

should know exactly what to do but they still fight you all the time or maybe you have a

child in this case we're going to call it a daughter who dawdles at bedtime

because she doesn't want to miss out on life and because she

doesn't like to go to sleep or whatever reason because there's a lot of reasons with

sleep issues but she wants to try on different pajamas every night before bed.

And so what really happens is you're tired because bedtime is tough because you've had all day

and you want the child to get in bed so you can go downstairs and just have some time for yourself or

with your spouse and so your tone gets a little short and so you start honey

you need put your pajamas on and get in bed.

And it starts getting that clipped tone

because you're frustrated, right?

And when that doesn't work, honey, I'm going to count to 10.

And if you are not in bed bed and then we just start barking out

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