What's up everybody to my very first official YouTube live here at Women of Impact. I am Lisa Bilyu, the host of Women of Impact the show. And I am doing these now because I really want to make sure that I connect with you guys. I have done this channel for six years and it's about freaking time. Now that AI is coming out and you don't know what's real and what's not, that we're here together to connect. Alright, I've got a plan for today. This is my first life so bear with me but I do have a plan.

I wanna... coming out and you don't know what's real and what's not that we're here together to connect. All right, I've got a plan for today. This is my first live so bear with me, but I do have a plan.

I want to talk about, I'm going to tell you what we're talking about today actually, and I'm going to talk about confidence. I have coached confidence and today I'm going to give the big tips that I I have learned in my life that helped me propel me forward, no matter what I'm trying to do.

I'm also, I've got a screen over here by the way, a little cheat sheet just in case you

see me looking over here, that's what I'm trying to do. I'm also, I've got a screen over here by the way,

a little cheat sheet just in case you see me looking over here.

That's why I'm going to talk to you guys about behind the scene stuff that happened to women of impact. We've got a guest coming on tomorrow that I'm about to interview and I want you guys to help me come up with a question. You can ask me anything. Anything, anything about business, anything about mindset, anything about confidence, anything about relationships, anything about toxicity, anything you like. I am here to help. I've never had one question that I've refused to answer. So let's see if you can challenge me today. And then also, I really want what am I going to do. I'm going to answer your questions, ready? Said that. And we did a poll before we actually came live

and we actually asked you guys what you wanted to know. And you guys submitted a bunch of questions before I get to it. I've actually got some surprises that I wanted to start with. So right now I'm gonna surprise and delight. I've got the first five people that joined this live. I'm giving you a free copy of my audio book, Radical Confidence, because I want to help you guys build your freaking confidence.

So I'm giving the first five people the joint,

Zal Zoom, my community manager I don't see the names of the first five people so I'm gonna read those out Stay here with me in case that's you Zazu Zazu I hope my community manager hears me and so okay if you're the first five, you just won the audio book.

Stay tuned though, because in this hour guide, I'm gonna drop a couple little freebies, a couple little surprises, and some unexpected things. So if you stay for the full hour, you're gonna get the full, least of the new women of impact experience. And I do have a hair in my eye, but that's just what we do. Gotta roll with the punches All right, the first five people that joined are Forest Sage Stiles. Forest Sage Stiles. We've got Crypto Crayon. We've got Radicala Cran. I'm butchering your name. The first apologies and then CN Bennett. I think that was five people. You guys just won my book on audio for absolutely free. My goal is to help people gain confidence in any freaking area of their lives and that's one thing. I spent a year of this guys on my book trying to write it. I released it a few years ago and so you're going to get the audio. All right. So now let's move on to I'm going to got a question from a community. In fact, do we have any questions right now before I move on to a pre-established question? All right, so I'm actually gonna, I just saw this. I don't, this is from Daniel Boone, Net 2218. My strange husband is a textbook narcissist. Is there a way to make him see this and bring him back from his cheating craziness to reality?

Alright, so I've done a lot of episodes on narcissism.

One of my closest, closest friends is Dr. Romani and guys, she's coming on in a few weeks.

Literally in a few weeks I'm interviewing her.

So come back on the next live and you can help me ask a question.

So anyway, Dr. Romani says, you cannot change them.

You cannot convince them. You cannot change them. You literally can't. They are who they are. And so God bless you. My heart bleeds that you are in a narcissistic relationship. But for the love of God, honestly, I say this with so much heart, move on. The moment you're trying to prove that he did you wrong, the moment you're trying to prove that he is a narcissist is just wasted energy. He will, he's basically getting what he want. He's getting you to pay him attention and he doesn't care. So in those moments, what is your goal? Guys, even when it comes to emotions, even when it comes to relationships, I talk about goals, what is your goal? Is your goal to feel better about yourself or is your goal to get even because I'm telling you they're not the same And so if your goal is to get even then you're not gonna feel better about yourself So you're not gonna be able to heal so you have to establish and decide what your goal is if your goal is to move on Then my homie honestly, I say this with respect. Let go move on. He doesn't freaking deserve you Okay, so if you more detail, obviously you can go and watch so many episodes that I've done with my friend, Dr. Ramy. Go check around. Alright, so now guys, we're going to move on. I've got a community question that we put a poll if you go to women of impact on YouTube in post. I spend a lot of time on the post section. We craft them. We write them together, like it's really important to go over to my post and read them. I'm always doing polls. I want to hear from you guys. So I've got this question and it's from pop-kittinka. I'm sure I'm buttering your name again, apologies. The question is your tips are not, sorry, I'm going to read my notes instead of the teleprompter. Your tips are not losing drive with my new year's resolution. Okay, so resolutions, we're January. Here's the problem with not losing a drive with when it comes to resolutions. You've got ambition and you've got drive. When you've got ambition, ambition is, I really want something, right? Drive is I'm going to go out and get the thing. So, Ev, a lot of us have ambition. We have dreams, we want to do things. But then, when life kicks us in the teeth, when you're failing at your relationship, when something's gone wrong, when you've lost your money, when something really fricking kicks you in your teeth, you wake up often and you don't have the drive anymore. So what happens is you lick your wound and month after month after month, you still got the ambition but you have no idea why you haven't gotten to your goal. That's why you haven't achieved your resolution. So I'm going to break down right now. This is where I go into the coaching guys. I'm going to break down the difference and how you actually build drive because I get it.

When you've been kicked in the teeth you don't want to freaking get up.

You want to bleed. You want to cry. You want to weep. So this is how you get up even when you've been kicked in the teeth because let me tell you life is going to do it. I really wish it didn't, but it will. So I'm just going to get my notes. So we've got ambition the way that I think of ambition. So we're going to break them down how to build

How to know your ambition and then how to know your drive. So ambition, think of it as a mission. Your ambition is, what am I going towards? Now a fuzzy target is freaking hard to hit. So if you don't actually know what your mission is, if you're not so freaking concrete on your mission, how you actually going to achieve it. Now God bless but a lot of things that I hear

about mission is I want to help people. The problem is when you say you just want to help people, how on earth do you know what it is? So imagine you start your new year's resolution. I want to help people. Well, what by week two you got a fuzzy target. You have no idea how to actually help people. So I'm going to give you a structure of three things right now that you need to write down. So, you can figure out what you're moving towards, what your mission is. That is the what, the who and the why. Write this down guys, the what, the who and the why. Now, you take that and you write, what is your mission? Who is it for and why are you doing it?

Then from that you create a mission statement.

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