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I have a quick question. My girlfriend and I, we've been together for a little bit under a year and a half,

and we're finally starting to have that talk about moving in together now I am

25 I make a hundred thousand dollar salary I'm doing well for myself she's actually a teacher

so as you can assume she's making less than less than what we would wish she was making

so when moving in together the conversation arose arose of, hey, if I move in, we'll be splitting

50-50 everything because we aren't married or anything like that.

And you'll have extra free money to spend.

I'm currently on step two, so she asked me what that extra money would go towards, and I said debt.

Her response was a little unnerving in the fact of she said, well, technically you're saving

that money because of me, so I feel like that money that you're saving should go into a savings

account for us and our activities, since you wouldn't be saving that money if we

weren't living together.

Wow.

I kind of understand where she's coming from because she is helping me save money and

that money is paying off debt.

But at the same time, I feel like that's not necessarily like a healthy mindset because

overall, even if I do put that money into a savings account and...

The problem, Josh, is you are trying to do a married thing without being married.

Fair.

And so you're trying to solve a riddle that cannot be solved.

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