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Question comes from Allison in Wisconsin. Allison writes, my 30-year-old son has never maintained stable employment and often asks me to quote unquote spot him alone.

I've given him a lot of money over the years because I feel guilty for divorcing his

father when he was just 16. I've exhausted my savings and hoped to retire in the next two years.

He lost his job about a month ago, moved to a different state with no job lined up, and I've

given him several hundred dollars already. I don't want him homeless or hungry,

but I can't keep bailing him out because he makes irresponsible decisions. Can I cut him off?

Please, God, cut him off. Please. Right now. He's useless. Today. And it's your fault.

Stop it. As Eminem said, you've created a monster.

You've got to cut him off.

You have to.

Oh, God.

It's disgusting.

Actually, call him and say that you're sorry.

Yeah, I'm so sorry.

I've enabled you into stupidity and laziness and

irresponsibility. And I love you so much. I'm not going to do it anymore. My favorite quote from

our buddy Henry, Henry Cloud, says, the greatest gift you could give this young man, this 30-year-old

young man, is some problems.

Yep.

That's like going to the gym and stop taking the weight off the bar for him.

He's got to learn to lift.

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