You Can't Unsee It: Codependency Trauma

Lisa A Romano Breakdown to Breakthroughs

Lisa A. Romano

Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Education, Self-improvement

4.8 • 805 Ratings

🗓️ 24 February 2025

⏱️ 29 minutes

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Summary

Are you codependent? If so, you may be suffering from codependency trauma. Once you see codependency traits, signs and symptoms showing up in your relationships, particularly codependent narcissist relationships, you can't unsee it. Codependency recovery relies on the ability to look within to make peace with our shame, low self-worth, and abandonment issues.

If you are in a codependent relationship, you may have noticed that you seek approval, feel like a doormat, enable, fix, and fawn. The four f's of childhood trauma are fight, flight, freeze and fawn. Codependency is considered the fourth F, the fawning aspect of childhood trauma. To overcome codependency in relationships, first, you must identify your codependent traits. Then you must learn to embrace inner child recovery healing work. From there, if you have been exploited or manipulated or have suffered gaslighting abuse from a narcissist, you will also need to heal cognitive dissonance. Another key healing aspect of codependency recovery is learning to develop a mindful practice and to take seriously the need to reprogram the subconscious mind.

The five pillars of codependency recovery include, inner child healing, codependency healing and recovery work, narcissistic abuse recovery, mindfulness training and retraining the brain at the neurological and subconscious levels.

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0:00.0	Welcome to Breakdown to Breakthrough, the podcast that empowers you to transform your life
0:04.8	by awakening to your true authentic self. I'm Lisa A. Romano, your host, as an award-winning author
0:10.6	and certified life coach, I've dedicated my life to helping others understand the incredible power
0:16.7	of an organized mind. I believe that true empowerment begins with awakening to our false self.
0:23.2	I created the Conscious Healing Academy, a three-part coaching and brain retraining program designed
0:28.6	to help individuals triumph over trauma and turn the breakdowns into powerful breakthroughs.
0:34.5	My mission is to support you on your journey toward mental and emotional
0:38.6	regeneration through conscious and deliberate awakening. In this podcast, I'll share insights,
0:44.5	tools, and transformative stories that illuminate the path to healing and self-discovery.
0:51.6	So today, we're going to be talking about how codependent belief systems, which reside at the
0:57.4	subconscious level, block the good in your life. So we have to understand codependency
1:02.4	as a defense strategy. Co-dependency is a belief system. I believe that codependency is a disease
1:10.8	of perception. The lens through which we see
1:15.4	ourselves through and perceive ourselves through is corrupt. Before the age of three, you were supposed
1:21.6	to be able to be permitted to form a healthy ego identity. I have a little granddaughter. She's two and a half years old.
1:29.3	And part of that creation process for us as a family is that we're all on the same page.
1:35.3	We know that if she has big feelings, she is encouraged to feel her big feelings.
1:42.3	And she is encouraged to express why she thinks she has these feelings
1:47.7	because there is a belief or a thought or a sense that happens below the feeling. And so we don't
1:55.9	want to get, want her to get stuck in anger or sadness. We're already at two and a half years old, encouraging
2:02.7	her, validating for her, witnessing her emotions is called healthy mirroring. And it creates a space
2:08.5	in which this little baby is allowed to feel everything and without judgment. It's a very,
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