What if I told you that caring what people think has nothing to do with insecurity and everything to do with your identity?

I used to be trapped by the fearful other people thought about me.

After making these five mindset shifts, I was able to actually detach from their opinions and live my life exactly how I wanted to.

Even now as the face of a multimillion dollar company where I get on constantly.

And guess what? I don't give a f***.

It's fine.

So if you want to understand how to emotionally detach and stop needing external validation from others,

this video is for you.

Number one is ignore applause.

Just because people praise you doesn't mean you're on the right path.

A applause is not a North Star.

Praise or applause.

They are reflections of other people's preferences, not your purpose.

If it's not aligned with your values, it's a distraction, not direction to go in.

And I think that oftentimes, especially now, there's no separation between the real world and social media.

And because of that, it's like praise and applause have actually become one of the easiest addictions to justify, especially when you're building something, whether you're building yourself, a business, a relationship, and people start to notice. So for example, I make content, right? It was about a year and a half ago. My team said, hey, we want you to make a video on branding. And I remember I made the video and the whole time,

I just felt like this like visceral, like bad feeling in my gut.

And I got done and I said, I just don't think this is for me. I just don't like love it. I don't feel like I'm an expert on it. It's not something I really want to talk about it. I'm not going to. And if I ever want to talk about it again in the future,

I allow myself to do so.

But just because other people want me to,

they like what I have to say and they like the video

and hit the thumbs up button, doesn't mean I need to keep doing it. So what you want to recognize is that people are applauding you because you are acting in a way that they prefer you act. So once I realize that people are just applauding me because of themselves, It doesn't mean that I should keep doing the thing.

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