XYBM Clips: Sometimes the trauma is God’s way of calling you to Him
Express Yourself Black Man
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🗓️ 2 September 2025
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In XYBM 138, I sit down with Durelle Bailey, a motivational creator passionate about lifestyle, travel, and financial empowerment, for an inspiring conversation on building a successful life from the ground up. Durelle opens up about his journey from a challenging upbringing to creating success alongside his wife through faith, hard work, and strategic planning. We dive into taking ownership of your life, harnessing the transformative power of relationships, practical steps for financial stability, and the game-changing habit of setting goals and holding life meetings with your partner.
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| 0:00.0 | Whenever I left after high school, it was a strange feeling because I feel like I was being set free, but I also felt like I was breaking at the same time. |
| 0:15.1 | And the reason that is is because she was just the only thing I knew. |
| 0:20.9 | You know what I'm saying? |
| 0:21.7 | So even though I dealt with all that trauma, |
| 0:23.4 | I felt like, okay, I'm getting away from it, |
| 0:26.5 | but I'm also like leaving the only thing |
| 0:28.8 | that I know even how to manage my anxiety, right? |
| 0:33.4 | Like she would help me calm down in certain situations. |
| 0:36.1 | She was the one that was we moved together. |
| 0:37.8 | We went through a lot together. You know, and so when I left, um, that was tough. And I had to learn |
| 0:44.1 | how to lean on God. That, that's when I found cracks. That's when I had to like take a deep dive |
| 0:50.1 | into that relationship, um, to sustain me through that time period, right? Because, um, and, |
| 0:57.8 | and I, I believe he, he allowed me to go through that because he needed me to know that, |
| 1:03.0 | hey, I'm your foundation. Like, I'm going to sustain you through the rest of your life. Right, |
| 1:07.3 | regardless of who started with you. I'm going to sustain you for the rest of your life. |
| 1:11.0 | And so, yeah, man, we went without talking for 10 years. |
| 1:14.6 | And over the last couple of years, as I've grown and as I've, you know, I just turned 30. |
| 1:20.8 | And it's funny because now that I'm 30, I'm the age she was when she did whatever she did to me at that time. |
| 1:27.0 | And so I look back and I try to put |
| 1:30.6 | myself in her shoes. A single parent, you know, she had, she had, she had her stuff that she dealt with. |
| 1:38.1 | I don't fully understand why she was the way that she was, but she had her stuff that she dealt with. |
| 1:43.0 | And she, you know, she, I think she had a lot of unresolved mental health issues. She never got therapy herself. Yeah. You know what I mean? And so she was just trying to figure out life on her own. She was just going about it the wrong way. And so over the last couple of years, I've tried to have more grace for her. And then after COVID, I realized people are leaving |
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