I don't know about you but I have a kiddo that feels his feelings so deeply and one feeling that we've been navigating in the last year or so is shame.

And I can tell when he feels shame or embarrassed because he shuts down, he gets quiet, he kind of like looks like he feels

alone and if we try to talk to him he says, stop, leave me alone. And as an adult, if you think about a time that you've ever felt ashamed or embarrassed,

it is a really hard feeling.

It's a really hard feeling to feel like you messed up and you made a mistake and

everyone's looking at you. So today we're talking to Alexandra from Big Life Journal

about navigating shame in school-age children.

Let's dive in.

Man, I'm going through it right now with my six-year-old.

He's like, has become his own little person and one emotion

that I think he's feeling. I'm hoping you can help me with that today is shame and

that's a really hard one to feel my husband and I were actually just

talking about it the other night I brought up like a concern that I had for my husband and he

was like I don't want I can't talk about this right now because it was like something that he did and I could tell he was feeling shame and I'm excited to talk about shame and

I think that it's hard for me it was hard to tell when my kid was feeling shame.

I figured him out a little bit but I think this is an important topic because we

forget that our kids can feel shame and

embarrassment and not know how to tell us.

So before we dive into this episode on shame and kids,

Alexandra, do you want to tell us a little bit

about yourself and what you do?

Sure. I'm Alexandra Idens. I'm the founder and creator of Big Life Journal. You might have seen

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